[MrRob]

Took her along to the gig last night, and she really enjoyed it. Dropped her off afterwards and asked if I could take her out again sometime – she looked a bit awkward, then started explaining the situation between her and the other guy.

Turns out they split up over xmas, but he has been calling her names since. She still says she has feelings for him, although dreads bumping into him as he has been blanking her lately. She now says she only has feelings for him and still wants to stay friends with me. I cant understand women – a man can treat her like s*** and yet she adores him, yet another guy that she also liked is helping her and being one of her best friends and she would rather be with him :s

[MrRob]

Thanks very much for the advice 🙂

Just to bring a quick update, I have since met up with this girl now that she has come back from her Xmas break and finished all of her Uni work. We went for coffee, just a quick 1 hour meetup after work where it all seemed to go well.

She was her usually self, talking, smiling and flirting, like I she always used to do. It got to the point where I had to ask her about her situation with this other guy. I simply asked: “So how are you and the other guy getting along?”

She seemed to look awkward, and her reply was, “Its complicated at the moment… I don’t wanna talk about it.” She then suggested I should come out later in the week for her friend’s birthday night out – I was about to, but she apparently got so drunk that she didnt reply to my message asking where we should meet, and she went home early. I did get an apology text in the morning.

Ive also noticed a comment that someone wrote on her Facebook following a nightout by another girl: “You looked smoking in that dress, I hope you pulled”, to which her reply was just: ” Eugh no boys for me, nightmare! X”

I’m not sure what the phrase “complicated” means for a girl. I have no idea whether they have split up, taking a break or what, but Im also worried about pestering her. I feel conscious about texting her for a meetup just days after the last one incase she feels im coming on too strong.

Her favourite band in the world are playing in town next week and I had contemplated getting tickets and taking her to the gig, but Im just generally confused by the whole situation 🙁

[MrRob]

So do you think she was being genuine with her promise, or just trying to make me feel better as a friend.

Thanks for the help 🙂

[MrRob]

I did. I met her for a drink a few weeks ago, and she told me about the new BF then, though she described it as ‘not serious’ and still quite new. I then told her that I’d liked her for months, but didnt have the chance to tell her. Now she says she wishes Id told her before. Yesterday when I saw her, she said she wasnt sure which direction her relationship would go, but said that if it didnt work out, she would go on dates with me and play it by ear.

Thing is, I now feel bad, because I’ve put her in a tough situation, although she has said she would never get with somebody else while in a relationship – which is a good thing I guess.

Most people would move on from rejection, but how do you move on when shes telling you she likes you, and would have got with you before, and will get with you if they break up? Even now, we still get along like a couple – go shopping together, go for drinks etc…

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