New to site, not sure where to post. I have a problem with my boyfriend (well ex right now). He is 25 i just turned 29, he is jewish just moved from israel and has never dated a non-jewish girl. This freaked him out a bit in the beginning of our relationship but we talk about marriage and me converting and so forth. We have been together almost one year. We’ve had our problems but nothing i didnt think we could work out. A couple of months ago he tells me his friend from israel is coming to visit and tells me i will meet her. The day she arrives i tell him to txt me later so we can meet up, around the evening i see he posted a picture of this girl in her bathing suit on his facebook. I get really mad at him thinking its inappropriate, he tells me i took it the wrong way. I later come to find out they did not hang out alone, but later that night a group of the went out dancing and of course i was not invited since we had this fight. He subsequently goes out with her the next night. I let him know my displeasure but he insists they are only friends. Last night we have a fight and it comes out he was “leaving his options open” because he thought i was doing the same. He stated he could of “had this girl” but that he chose me. He now insists that he loves me and didnt flirt with her and that obviously nothing happened. This is all very disturbing to me, i take it that he lied to me about who this woman was. Put himself in a “high risk” situation and jeopardized our relationship. He kept talking to her for the rest of the week pretty often when she went on a cruise and when i brought it up he said it was because she was going to come back in town. When she came back in town he almost met up with her and her friends again until i made a big deal of it (he says he didnt invite me because the all speak hebrew and he didnt want me to feel left out). When i told him it was not a valid excuse he invited me along. I said i could not go, so he ended up not going either. He later posted pictures of her and her friends on his fb but hid the fb album from me. One day he was surfing his fb with me sitting right next to him and i saw this album. We got in a fight, he says it was harmless (the pictures werent bad, but they were of this girl and her friends) and that he thought i would get jealous and mad. We’ve had a few fights over some of his female friends, nothing really significant. Is this all a deal breaker? He seems really sincere that he’s sorry over everything but i just dont know if he’s trustworthy anymore. Am i reading the situation accurately?
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