If for what it is worth, I have been in two marriages myself. I am 31 and have felt the same way you have but in a different situation. One, never feel as though there would never be anyone that will love you like he did. There are all sorts of fish in the sea that would be lucky to have such a wonderful and caring person such as yourself. You are of worth and as long as you show that caring part of yourself , others will love everything about you and more. From being on the outside ( reading your posting) and somewhat know a little of how you feel. I would start things out by talking with him, encourage him and give him a little praise when you hear about him making those steps into the directions he going. Allow him to know that he can succeed in whatever job decision that he wants to go to. Also give him your opinion in a nice way. Maybe it will encourage him to make the right decisions. Sometimes men need to hear that from someone they care about.
As far as your relationship goes… take things really slow. Wait for him to be stable enough to provide for himself. You will know in your heart what and when things need to happen. But over all dont go back if all you feel about yourself is that no one is going to feel the same way he did. Someone will if you want them to and will allow them to love you in the same way you deserve to be loved. Everyone deserves that despite how many relationships they have been in. Everyone craves to be loved by someone and wants to feel special( and they should.) I hope I was not just rambling on about things. I am by no means a professional in relationships but I have been shown that all women are valuable and unique in everyway. They should be treated with respect as every person does. You worked hard for what you have and for your son. You did what you needed to do to protect yourself and your son. Sometimes actions like that need to be taken to open a mans eyes to see what he needs. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesnt, depends on how prideful they are. Just give it time and dont move too quickly. Think of things threw and over time the answers will come to you.
Kitty
