Thanks for your quick reply, April.
I was afraid you were going to say that, but I’ve never been one to shrink from the truth. I had been trying to rationalize, he does have some stresses in his life that kind of precipitated the withdrawl, he runs kind of hot and cold, sometimes talking about the future and sometimes ignoring texts or giving monosyllabic replies. Maybe he just needs space… I was desperate to find out how I could act to get through this rough patch. These past three days of no contact have been tough and the silence is loud.
But as you say, my history makes me sensitive to being ignored, and my attraction for him began because he was very attentive. I worry that my issues are making me over react and therefore screw up a perfectly good relationship, but then if I am so anxious maybe it’s me who can’t handle being in one. And I have been anxious since the beginning, preparing for him losing interest the entire time, trying to act cool. Not a great place to be.
I downloaded the book you suggested and am reading it. Starting over is discouraging. Dating is mostly not fun, but at least I don’t have a biological clock ticking….
