Thank you for your advice! I am… sort of following it?
I’m worried about step 1 because he outright told me that he’s very passive when it comes to relationships. The two girlfriends he’s had, they both did the asking. And “making myself scarce” is also a little difficult to do because given the circumstances we tend to see each other all the time. But I will work on that part because I understand the logic behind it. He also is under the impression that I am not interested in a boyfriend right now, and I have not gone on about boys with him at all, so I don’t think I’m coming off as too desperate…
I have been working on step 2. It’s a little difficult because he’s more the quiet and reserved type, so it’s kind of hard to get him going. But I have finally figured out what makes him laugh, and I have broken the “touch barrier” for starters.
And as for step 3, I have…succeeded? The Mexican girl is leaving on Wednesday but the two of them were together when we all went out last night, so I decided to do whatever and ended up dancing with/kissing a Spaniard last night whose name I never actually found out. And Josh told me, “Good job” and gave me a thumbs up. From what I’ve read this is kind of sort of a step in a good direction? Because he sees me as desirable to other men, low maintenance, and coy, even if it isn’t necessarily with him… I didn’t do it with him intentionally in mind, just to enjoy myself. I’m hoping it didn’t close any doors that weren’t already closed.
Also, my friends here are starting to pressure me to tell him soon, like, in two weeks. Which I do not plan on doing because I think that is much too soon. Curious about your thoughts on when to tell him provided there isn’t some crazy situation that makes the decision obvious.
Thanks again!
