[mary]

Thank you April for all your advice. Yes i had enough of being hurt and i do realize that i need to change the patterns in my life. Just hope i get more chances. You know that as we get older things get harder. So i hope. I am looking forward to reading your book and again thanks for all the valuable advice!

[mary]

Thanks April. Sorry i did not mean to sound rude or something and i will buy and read your book for sure. I am so crushed though, so crushed! Thanks again!

[mary]

April thanks again. I will sure buy the book. I just want to ask again is all hope lost with these 2 men or is there some plan you can give me? Please please advice me!!!!! i will be most grateful!!!!!!!!!!!

[mary]

Thanks April for your answer. Do you think that both of these chances are gone? Is there anything that can be done with either of these guys? One of them quit the classes-this is the one i suspect got hit on by that woman who is prettier and younger. And the one i was confused over is still here, just has another woman running after him. I hate loosing it all. I hate me for blowing this up. I hate not taking your advice sooner! Is all hope here lost? I am sorry i am so worried over this-i am over 35 and so tired of being alone for so many years and repeating the same mistakes!Please advice me if there is any hope.

[mary]

April i am crushed! I wish i had followed your advice sooner! Just as when i decided to befriend both me this is what a happened: Today the second guy, dropped out of the afternoon classes. He showed me no interest and one of the ladies there that i know was interested was trying all the time to be with him this last time. They car-pool at the end of the day so this time i am sure she hit on him, or even manipulated something over the weekend since this man changed behavior. The first guy the one i was confused over is already flirting one of the women there. So it seems that both of them have moved and guess who ends up alone: Me. I am so so crushed and disappointed. I hate me for being confused. I hate me for not following your advice sooner and let that second man in her hands. I can’t forgive me. I know there are other men out there but i can’t believe i had 2 interested ones and i blew it.
Is there anything that can be saved now?
By the way this woman is younger and prettier and the second man is also younger by 5 years. And they know each other better since they car-pooled for some time. I have a feeling she did not show interest at first and that is why he came to me and now that she did show interest he gave up. I can’t have another chance now since he won’t take the classes anymore. I could find his number but what the hell i would only be embarrassed since i am pretty sure she cooked up something and everyone seems she is hot.
The man i am confused over is still at the classes but has this girl running after him like a cat on heat.
Please please please help me!

[mary]

Thank you so much for your valuable advice! I will let you know how things go!

[mary]

Thanks again! One last thing-what about the fact that the first man gets hurt when i am friendly with the second one? It makes me even not want to smile to that second guy. How do i handle that? I hate to hurt anyone’s feelings since i have been flirting and paying extra attention to the first man. Thanks again for all your valuable advice.

[mary]

Thank you April for answering again. We all take the same afternoon classes and neither of them has asked me out yet. We just hang out during the breaks and a bit after the end of the last class. What about the fact the these two men are friends? The first one seems jealous and hurt when he notices me paying attention to his friend. And it gets more complicated. Both men have other women in that class really interested in them and ready to go on a relationship with them any time. The first guy i know for sure he wants to have a serious relationship sometime soon.
Do i be friends with both and see where it goes? Even if the first man gets jealous?
Do i pick one of the two and give him more attention?
I am not ready to pick, even though i have more feelings for the first man. But i am afraid that indecision will cause me to loose both chances since the other women are really pushing them and flirting with them.
Thanks again.

[mary]

Hello April and thanks for answering my question.
I am not sure i am attracted to this man. Do i still date him if he asks or is it a waste of time?
And it gets a bit more complicated than that?
He seems to have feelings and at the same time there is a friend of his interested and that friend got me curious. Do i just forget about both men? We hang out together sometimes so it sounds complicated. What do you think?

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