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Yes I have received it! I am about half way through it and plan on finishing it sometime this week. So far it’s great!

I do have another update on my situation and question…maybe not the greatest update but I still have high hopes. This weekend we went out, just the two of us and had a blast! Danced, had some drinks made-out a little, overall a real fun time. Like I mentioned before, I have been less available and we have been hanging out about once a week during the weekends instead of 2-3 times a week about a month ago. Long story short, I tried advancing physically with her latter that night and wasn’t successful. She said she didn’t want things to escalate…naturally we started talking about what the two of us were. I told her I was looking for something more long term with her. She said she is looking for “me” time for once in her life and doesn’t want to be tied down to a relationship right now. She has always had a boyfriend and said she wants to have time for herself, which I respect and think it makes some sense. I then reacted by basically saying ok…since we’re not on the same page and we should probably both go our separate ways. She didn’t really like that but said if that’s what I wanted then she would respect it. My question is, do you think this was a irrational move on my part? I obviously still want to be with her, but am hoping if I give her complete space she will realize that maybe she does want to be with me. Do you think I still hold a chance? Was cutting ties with her a bad move? I really feel like if we were to keep hanging out things would stay the same and I’d have a much steeper slope to climb…and possibly end up in the friend zone which i don’t want. But by getting myself out of the picture completely I’m hoping the whole you don’t know what you had until you lost it thing could work.

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Thanks again for all your advice! I tried purchasing your book from your site but had a few challenges downloading it. I sent an email to your tech support email and still waiting to hear back. I am eager to start reading your book!

Also to give you an update, I am still talking with this girl and have been on another date since my last email! Once again it went very well. I took your advice and have been hanging back a little more and have cooled the amount of contacts, trying to leave her wanting more and I have noticed a positive change! I am still working towards a relationship with her, but have been taking it more slowly.

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I ended up calling her today, we talked for about a half hour and we have plans to go out this Friday! Anything I should keep in mind as I try progressing this into something more serious over time? Anything I SHOULDN’T do or avoid doing through this process?

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This is great! So would you suggest putting a time table on calling her to ask her out? Give it a few more days? Will I come off needy if I call her up even tonight? Our last correspondence was through text (small talk/flirting) Monday night, she had the last words. Thanks again 🙂

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Quick question, would you recommend I disappear for a week or two or keep very light convo via text every few days or so? Or maybe call her? I’ve responded to her few texts shes sent but waited a few hours to respond. This is the part of dating I’ll be the first to admit I’m not the best at (playing hard to get), but I’m attempting to improve it. This is generally the part where I crash and burn and loose the girl. Once again, I appreciate the advice 😀

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Perfect, thought that may be the way to handle it. Think I just needed to hear it from someone who knows what they are talking about. I’ll play it cool and see how it goes 😎 Thanks again!

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Thanks for the advice, much appreciated. We actually went on 4 dates…sorry, thats what I meant when I said “hung out”. Either way, not sure if that makes any difference. Today she said she still wants to hang out. No plans have been made and maybe I will if she takes the initiative to plan something to do.

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And any advice on how to handle it, under the assumption I want to try making this work.

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Wondering why she up and said she didn’t want anything serious out of the blue when everything was going very well?

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