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I’ve known him since 2006, and in 2010, we found each other online. In the past three years, we’ve been talking and getting closer, and he seemed like an awesome guy. I got with him in March, and at first, it was perfect. Then he started yelling at me for stupid things. Ex: I went outside without telling him, I got yelled at. I got excited over being able to see a (female) friend, I got yelled at. I wanted to go see my (female) friend, I got yelled at. I wanted to go see my family, I got yelled at. I made plans with my familyfriends without asking him first, I got yelled at. I talked to a male friend who’s married, I got yelled at. I put my hair up in a ponytail, I got yelled at. I’m sure you see the pattern. He has punched holes in walls when he gets aggravated, and he gets aggravated a LOT. His mom is disrespectful to me, and my mom is nice to him, yet he is always telling me he is going to punch my mom in the face, while I’m forced to put up with his mother calling me a stream of names and talking about me behind my back–telling people I’m trying to kill her son, calling me a succubus, telling people I worship the Devil. All kinds of things. The thing is, this woman is ignorant enough to say these things to my FRIENDS and FAMILY, and when caught, she swears up and down she didn’t say it, but I know different. When I got pregnant, she told my sister that it would be MY responsibility to financially support her son and my baby, and take care of her son AND my baby while he “rests” because he’s always sick. She has told me that if any money that belongs to me arrives at her house while I’m not there (I was living there for six months, so I changed my address to theirs,) that she saw no reason why she shouldn’t use it. We’ve been dating since March 31, and have been engaged since July 21st. It was a quick thing, but everything felt right. It was shortly after we got engaged that he began yelling at me. The wedding was going to be January 18th, but now I’m not so sure I want to marry him. He’s been sick for about three months now, and we don’t know what’s wrong with him, and every doctor we’ve gone to has said that coughing up blood is “normal” and that his tonsils–which are deteriorating–look “healthy”. (This is why I don’t go to hospitals where he lives.) I came back up to my father’s, where I could get professional, intelligent healthcare by an adequate hospital that has doctors that know what they’re doing. He is twenty. He refuses to come up with me, and continually asks me to switch hospitals, and I won’t do so because I know how bad the hospitals up there are, and the best hospital (which is still crappy) is an hour and a half away. My pregnancy is high-risk, so I need to be close to a hospital that can offer me correct care. He won’t come up with me because he dislikes my family, though I put up with his mother’s constant verbal abuse, and my mom even goes so far as to buy him cigarettes, and bought him a pair of shoes. He refuses to come with me because he hates my family and wants to stay with his mom so he doesn’t feel “obligated” to get a job.

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I’m sorry! I forgot I posted this. After I posted that, a lot of changes happened in my life. I’m 21 years old. Anyway, here’s my new post:

I’m pregnant and my fiance has never once been to one of my doctor appointments, but I’ve been to every one of his. This doctor appointment falls on the day after his appointment and because it’s early in the morning an three hours away, I have to miss his doctor’s appointment. He’s angry and says I can’t be relied upon for anything and says that I don’t care about him or that he’s sick. He says he “can’t” go without me there, so he’ll have to cancel it. I feel upset myself because I’ve NEVER missed one of his appointments, but he’s missed ALL of mine. Am I overreacting, or is he right to be angry? My doctor appointment is a sonogram at nine AM and his is at three PM. He’s missed mine because he can’t stand my family and in order to go, I have to stay with my dad, but he expects me to live with his mom, whom I despise and constantly insults me, three hours away from my hospital, with no transportation, no phone and no way of reaching out to my family. Hospitals where he lives are underpaid, under-educated, and most times misdiagnose people.

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