[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can’t build a healthy relationship when one person is holding back on purpose. And never get into a relationship hoping things will get better later.

If they didn’t value you in the pursuit, they won’t value you in the relationship.

Why would they? You already accepted being treated that way.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

We currently live in a competitive world.

From the time you’re a kid, you’re competing, in school, in sports, everywhere.

All our lives we’re thought rankings matters.

So yeah, everyone’s competing with everyone else. their friends, their families, even strangers online.

But the truth is love starts where the ego ends.

When you fall in love with someone, the sparks knock your ego right out of you.

But the less those sparks burn, the more your ego creeps back in.

And this is my main point, No one would be jealous of someone they truly love.

Sure, you might not be happy if your partner gets a job offer that means moving across the country, but that’s not jealousy, that’s insecurity. That’s you worried about what it means for your relationship.

Where there is jealousy, there is no love.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your memories of your wife won’t just vanish into thin air. What did you think?

You spent a chunk of your life with this person every single day, so of course you’re going to remember her when you do the things you did together, even something as simple as waking up, because you woke up beside this person every morning for years.

But you need to always remind yourself that no two people are the same. Expecting some new woman to be like your ex is not realistic, it’s not fair to her, and it’s not fair to you either.

And guess what? You’re not even the same guy your ex met anymore.

We all change. Life happens to us and it changes us, and that’s the beautiful part of life and love.

So open your heart to a new experience and stop comparing everyone to what you had before.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you feel you aren’t ready, then you aren’t ready. Simple as that. You don’t have to force yourself into anything.

Nothing is going to click until you feel it from deep inside. And you’re going to meet the person who’s going to unlock that part of you when you least expect it. 😉

Take your time, dear.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m an advocate of putting your career first.

But I’m also an advocate of loyalty, honesty, compassion, dedication, fairness, and gratitude.

And your decision goes against every single one of those things.

She did nothing to you, but you chose to throw away 5 years of her commitment and effort like it was nothing.

You’re using your career as an excuse because you think that sounds better than saying you fell out of love with her. People fall out of love, it happens. But at least you should have been honest with her about it or try to work on your relationship.

You couldn’t have been so busy that you had to neglect your woman. She should have been your support and your pillar. So yeah, you should feel guilty.

But maybe not so guilty, because she deserves to be with someone better.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Up until the fourth sentence, I was thinking, “Let the young lady be. Let her shine.”

But kissing on your boyfriend? Excuse me!

You need to talk to your boyfriend and redraw your boundaries.

Tell him it’s rude to you and he needs to shut it down

Then next time she goes in for a kiss and he doesn’t stop her, he’s choosing her comfort over yours. That makes him the problem

Ask him why he is sacrificing your comfort for another woman.

And ask yourself if this is the kind of relationship you deserve.

You don’t want to go into the new year with this baggage.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Most people are scared of starting over. They think it’s a loss of all the time and effort they’ve put into the relationship.

But if you’re caught up in thinking like this, you need to understand what you’re really feeling, sunk cost fallacy. You can either stop now and cut your losses, or you can keep dumping more time and effort down the drain.

The choice is yours,

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You need to tell me more if you want an answer here.

What do you mean by you now feel uncertain? Uncertain about what exactly?

And why do you think that’s growth?

What changed you?

I can’t help you if I don’t know what’s really going on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

One thing I always say is this, present yourself the way your type would want.

What is your type? What kind of woman does he want to date? What are his hobbies? Where would you likely find him? You need to present yourself that way, get involved in those hobbies, and hang out in those places.

You can’t completely stop men who aren’t your type from approaching you, but you can reduce that and increase how often men who ARE your type approach you.

You’re the advertising agency for yourself. You need to learn how to present yourself in the best possible way.

Now, there’s no surefire way to know if a guy is genuinely interested in you, but at the very least, his actions need to match his words. He should show genuine interest in getting to know you, the things you love, what makes you happy. And he’s not trying to sleep with you on the first date. 😂 That’s a pretty good sign right there.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sorry that happened to you.

That’s not a way anyone should start a new year

You didn’t deserve that.

So what did you do next? Did you call him out on his bullshit, or did you let it slide?

Because, I noticed you said boyfriend and not ex-boyfriend.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When to let go?

You let go the moment you realize you’re pouring love into someone who keeps giving you the bare minimum, or worse, nothing at all.

If you’ve told him that you’re not feeling valued, and he still can’t be bothered to step up, that’s your sign.

You don’t cling to someone who can look you in the face, hear you say “I’m hurting,” and then decide to change absolutely nothing.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This is one of the most asked questions I get, how do we get the spark back? Because almost every couple hits this wall

The first step to reigniting the spark is you both admitting the spark is gone and agree that you want it back, because you can’t do this alone.

Then start small.

Bring back the snuggling. Do little things that show you care. Putting the mail where your partner will see it, bringing them coffee when you grab one for yourself, touching her when you walk past, sitting closer together…….these things seem like nothing, but they’re actually the glue that holds a marriage together

Yeah, it might feel weird or forced at first, do it anyway….. hug each other every day and say “I love you.”

Lastly, go on adventures together. An adventure will help you feel connected again and you’ll make good memories as a couple.

I hope that helps😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Who made the first move, you or him? And how long have you been friends before you finally hooked up?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You seem to be reading way too much into the whole thing. People flirt all the time without having romantic interest in the other person, it’s just fun to them.

I think your overthinking is because you don’t have men who are actually approaching you with romantic intent.

Now why is that?

Tell me about yourself. Where you live, what you do for a living, if you’ve ever been married, when was your last relationship, what your social life is like, and the state of your finances.

If you have men flirting with you, you’re definitely not ugly, so no need asking you to grade how attractive you are. But give me what I’ve asked, so I can help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s simple.

They’ll show genuine interest in getting to know you, your likes, your habits, your preferences , and make plans around them. And they’ll respect your boundaries when it matters.

Someone who only loves the idea of a relationship, on the other hand, ignores what you like, what you want, your hobbies, your preferences. They try to shape you into some image in their head, so much so that you barely recognize yourself.

Is that how you feel now?

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