[April Masini, your AskApril]

If he’s not ignoring your texts, and you’re not the only one starting every conversation, there’s no reason to be worried about talking too much too soon.

People run out of things to talk about. That’s not overcommunication. You should learn to be comfortable in silence until you think of something to say. Next time it happens, just say, “Wow, I really ran out of things to say.” That gets rid of any awkwardness.

How are things supposed to “naturally” develop while you’re making a conscious effort to pull back?

There’s nothing wrong with talking every day. The guy hasn’t given you any reason to feel like you’re overcommunicating.

Enjoy the moment.😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re going to have to tell your partner. You need all the help you can get to take this on and fight for yourself. Because when you say you don’t want drama at work, you’re already rolling over, and somebody needs to be there to keep you strong. Plus, keeping secrets like this? That’s how relationships start to fall apart.

Now, action time!

It’s 2025, and your phone never leaves your side. So the next time you see him heading your way, turn on your phone recorder. Then, calmly tell him that his flirting makes you uncomfortable and that you’d appreciate it if he kept things professional between you.

Hopefully he gets the message and backs off.

And if he doesn’t? That’s unfortunate for him. You can take it up with his superior or HR, hell you could probably even go sue-happy if you wanted.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s totally normal to feel like the spark has faded a bit in your relationship. Long-term relationships settle into routines, and honestly? That’s not always bad.

But who wants to be stuck in the friend zone with their partner? Nobody.

I can give you tips to rekindle the spark in your relationship, but you’ve got to put in some effort.

First things first, you need to break the routine you’re in. Get out of the house. Plan weekend getaways. Going on adventures is one of the best ways to rekindle that spark. You’d be surprised how that little change can add excitement back into the mix.

You want to bring back the flirting? Start with yourself. Flirt like you’re dating again. Flirt often, and don’t stop just because it feels awkward at first. Flirt hard. Call during the day and talk dirty. Tell them what you like about them in ways that make them feel wanted. Tell them what you want to do with them later. Make them feel like you’re still crazy about them in that primal, dating kind of way.

If he loves you as you claim, he’ll definitely reciprocate.

You’ve got to keep it fun and spontaneous. A little playful energy goes a long way.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The answer is right there in your question.

The hurt comes from wanting to find closure. You want to know why someone would just stop talking to you after everything you shared.

But the simple truth is they’re just a jerk and a coward with the emotional intelligence of a toddler.

Instead of being honest about why they don’t want to see you anymore, they took the coward’s way out and stopped talking to you.

That right there, should be your closure. cos do you really want to waste any more time with someone like that?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The fact that both of you want this break is actually a good sign.

Usually one person wants the break and the other just goes along with it because they’re scared of losing the relationship for good.

But whether you both think you need a break or only one of you does, it’s still better to work out your problems inside the relationship, not outside of it.

Right now, what you’re doing is running away from the problems that made you want the break in the first place. You’re not fixing anything.

Unless you need the break to clear your head before you can find a solution, a break might just be the first step toward a permanent ending.

If you do decide to go ahead with the break, maybe you really do need to clear your head, then ask yourself what your deal-breakers are. What are the things you absolutely don’t want your partner doing during this break?

Sit down with him and have a real heart-to-heart. Let him tell you his rules, you tell him yours, and come to an agreement together.

If you can’t agree on what not to do during the break, you might just want to end it now.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This is way too vague. I can’t help you if you don’t give me the details. Give me something to work with. 😁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

What if the intensity doesn’t burn out?

You’ve only known each other for weeks. Of course it’s not the depth, it’s passion.

And you know what? There’s nothing wrong with that.

You don’t have to lean in all the way, and you definitely shouldn’t step back either. Just live and enjoy the moments as they come.

Stop overthinking it. Feel what you feel and see where it goes. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I can’t tell you how to fix something when I don’t even know how broken it is. What exactly did he do to break your trust?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Forget what other people are saying and focus on how you feel. That’s what matters.

From what you’ve told me, your partner hasn’t given you any reason to doubt this relationship.

You need to have more faith in your partner and in what the two of you are building together.

You said he makes time to talk with you regularly. That shows he’s making an effort to keep the relationship strong and that he’s committed to this.

So go with the flow. The only time you need to worry is if you feel like your emotional needs aren’t being met. And if that’s the case, then you need to talk to him about it. Tell him what you need from him, but do it in a calm, honest way. Don’t create problems where there aren’t any.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s no magic scale to tell you when someone is emotionally ready to hear how you feel about them. Two months is a pretty solid amount of time to build a solid connection.

If the only reason you’re holding back is because you’re scared of scaring her off, then, you’ve got no good reason to keep your feelings to yourself. Tell her how you feel.

Most of the time when a guy tells a girl he’s been friends with that he has feelings for her, the worst that happens is she politely says no in a way that doesn’t wreck the friendship.

Whether or not you stay friends after you tell her depends entirely on how you handle her answer. If you act weird and awkward about it, things will get uncomfortable. But if you respect her decision and act like everything’s normal, your friendship will stay intact.

And best case? She says yes and you get exactly what you’ve been hoping for.

Sometimes, you gotta put yourself out there to get what’s been right in front of you the whole time.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m happy to answer you, but first, I need you to answer a few questions for me:

How many relationships are we talking about?

In how many of them did you have sex on the first date?

How many times were you the one who asked them out?

And how many times were you the one who paid the bill on the first date?

Once you answer those questions, I’ll be able to give you better advice on what’s going on with your dating life.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let’s be clear about what you’re dealing with here.

Your boyfriend isn’t just a thief, he’s selfish, he betrayed you, he’s irresponsible, and on top of all that, he’s a manipulator.

This man stole your money and he’s not even talking about paying you back. Instead, he’s going on about “saving more” Excuse me? No. That’s bold and dirty.

And then he has the nerve to tell you that you’re overreacting?

You’re sitting here asking if you can trust him, if you should marry him, if this relationship can be fixed. Stop. Those aren’t even the right questions. The real question is: why are you still there?

You need to leave this man. Period.

If you stay with him, he’s going to drain you of everything you have, your money, your energy, your self-respect, and then he’ll walk away without a second thought.

He doesn’t love you. He’s using you, plain and simple.

He’s a leech, and the sooner you accept that and get away from him, the better off you’ll be. You deserve so much better than this.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You broke up with her, but ………..wait a second……… You didn’t expect her to move on fast? How long do you wish she was stuck in the breakup pain you caused?

Nah, that’s not how this works. You made your decision, now let her make hers.

Also, your story isn’t adding up.

First you said you stepped away, later, you said she broke up with you? Which one is it?

You insinuated that while she’s out there having a great time with her new boyfriend, she still finds time to pick up her phone just to throw nasty words at you? Somehow, I doubt that.

There is a lot more to your story that I’m sure you omitted on purpose.

But, know this, you need to stop wasting your time hoping something bad happens to her current relationship, you need to move on now.

You said you weren’t ready for a relationship anyways.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Hmmm

Why did you end things with her? Let’s start there.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re a man. Man up and talk to her.

What exactly are you afraid of losing here? The chance to spend the rest of your life wondering “what if” and kicking yourself for never finding out?

That’s way worse than any rejection could ever be.

Worst case? She says no and you move on knowing you tried. Best case? She’s been waiting for you to finally make a move.😉

[Member]

Posts