[April Masini, your AskApril]

What’s with your obsession about staying friends with someone who treated you badly? I’m not buying the “School and Work” excuses, you’re not friends with everyone at school, are you?

You don’t have to force a friendship when you’re clearly still hurt by her actions.

Honestly, reading what you’re saying makes me question if you even broke up with her or if she dumped you. You don’t sound like you made the decision, and you definitely don’t sound like you’re moving forward with your love life.

The reason running into her stirs up so much emotion is because you’re still mixing up the person who hurt you with the idea of who you thought they were. Once you accept that she’s just a bad ex who caused you pain, seeing her won’t trigger those emotions anymore.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There is a lot to unpack here. Clearly, she doesn’t respect you or your husband and I think this should be the main focus. What was your husband’s reaction to his daughter calling you a whrore?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You don’t marry someone hoping they’ll magically change once you say “I do.” That’s a huge mistake.

It’s clear this man isn’t ready to settle down. If being engaged already has him acting this way, imagine what marriage would look like. Imagine having kids with someone who’s this unsure, he’d probably run the moment things got real.

So before any of that happens, you need to be the one who walks away first. Save yourself the heartache and leave while it’s still easy to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I hate to break it to you, but she’s done with you. There’s no way back from this. Stop replaying it in your head and let her go. The longer you sit in denial, the worse it’s going to feel. It’s time to move forward,

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Nothing you’ve said here points to him “stringing you along,” being scared of commitment, or waiting for you to make the first move. But, the last thing you should be doing right now is pouring more energy into this situation.

I wonder what you mean by clarity, because, there’s no hidden meaning behind “not saying no but not saying yes.” At worst, it’s a no, exactly as his friend spelled out for you. At best, it means he’s unsure about you. And you need to ask yourself, is that really what you think you deserve?

I know you’re worried about the awkwardness in the group, but that’s just something you’re going to have to push through. If he or his friend brings it up again, shut it down. Tell them, clearly and firmly, that you’re not interested anymore. No extra explanations needed.

And stop obsessing over what everyone else might think. Nobody’s paying as much attention as you imagine. The best way to handle this is to act like it never happened. The more energy you give it, the worse it looks, and the more power you hand back to him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

From what you’ve said, there are two reasons this guy might be emotionally guarded. One, he’s trying to keep things clean at work. Mixing business with romance can get messy, and he may not want the drama. Two, he’s still tangled up in his divorce, emotionally and not ready to bring someone new into his life.

There’s also a third option, he’s just not that into you.

You can stop guessing by asking. After one of your calls, just say it, “Why don’t you ever call me?” If his answer doesn’t make you roll your eyes, tell him he’s free to call whenever he wants.

That said, don’t be the one calling all the time. Men need to chase, they want that thrill of the hunt and the satisfaction that comes with “catching” you. It also makes them respect and value you more when you’re not so easily available.

Lastly, you’re right not to get too invested here. Don’t waste time waiting for him to “figure things out.” Keep your options open, date other men, If he wants you, he’ll step up. If not, next.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You need to stop thinking about moving right now. That’s a huge decision, and you shouldn’t make it when your relationship is barely hanging by a thread, if it even exists at all.

What do you mean his calls stopped???????

He hasn’t called you in months. Is he an astronaut?

He doesn’t call, he barely texts, and when he does, it’s short and rushed. What more proof do you need?

Just because he said he doesn’t want to lose you?

Have you asked yourself, “lose you as what?” A backup plan? Someone to boost his ego? The girl he reaches out to when he’s bored or lonely?

Yeah, you love him. But at this point, you’re holding on to straws. It’s time to let go and move on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’ll share with you one of my top dating tips on how to win with women.

When a girl tells you “So, do you have any big plans this weekend?” She’s asking you to invite her to something. What to do is reply with something as simple as,, “Nothing much. Do you wanna grab a coffee?” or tell her there is a new place you’ve been wanting to check out, and she would be a great company if she’s free. Could be a new coffee shop, an art exhibit, or a new restaurant. Somewhere interesting.

If she’s actually interested, she’ll say yes right away, or she’ll suggest another time if she’s busy. Either way, that’s your answer.

You missed the hint but the window isn’t closed. Next time you’re at the salon, when she’s just about done with your hair, ask her if she would like to grab coffee sometime when she’s free. If she agrees, then you can ask for her instagram so you guys could make plans.

Don’t ask before or while she’s cutting your hair, bad timing.

No matter what she says, don’t make it weird. If she says yes, great. If she says no, smile, pay, and move on like it’s nothing. The only way it gets awkward is if you act awkward.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Right here, “says I’m being selfish or that he’s just trying to be a good person” is exactly the problem. Wanting to be a good person is one thing, but needing people to see you as a good person is something else entirely. I bet whenever you ask him for help in front of his friends, he’s quick to jump in. That’s because all he cares about is getting that external validation. But for some reason, your validation doesn’t seem to matter to him.

You need to stop seeing your boyfriend as this helpful guy who just doesn’t prioritize you, and start seeing him for what he really is, someone who only does things for the applause, not because they care.

I could advise you to compliment him in front of his friends, praise him for whatever he’s done recently, and maybe he’ll try to be more helpful. But how long are you willing to keep playing this game? You deserve a man who’s genuinely kind, who does things because he cares, not because he wants to be seen as the hero.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

it sounds like your husband has checked out emotionally he’s making it clear he doesn’t want to be with you romantically, even if he’s present for your son. You can’t make someone love you or relight passion that’s gone. Focus on protecting your heart and your well-being while co-parenting. Keep boundaries, stay calm, and put your energy into your child and yourself. if he decides to come back, that’s his choice but don’t wait around hoping he will.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You didn’t overstep you’re allowed to protect yourself and seek honesty in a relationship. Mixed signals, lies, and avoidance are red flags. After six months, it’s reasonable to expect clarity about commitment and fidelity. You’ve done your part by asking directly and setting boundaries. Now, protect your heart; give her space to figure things out, but don’t wait around indefinitely. A loving, supportive relationship requires mutual honesty and effort if she can’t give that, it’s okay to move on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

it sounds like he’s interested, but he’s not taking the lead consistently. At your age, it’s okay to show interest, but don’t chase him or bend over backward you want someone who makes time for you. Ask him directly if he still wants to plan your date, and base your actions on his response. Don’t assume; clarity beats guessing every time.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First loves hit hard, and it’s normal to feel stuck. Healing means accepting the loss, learning from it, and focusing on yourself. Let yourself grieve, but don’t dwell on “what ifs’ you’ll know you’re ready for someone new when you can think of the past without pain controlling your present. Trust that the right connection will come again.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The key is to base decisions on who someone is NOW as opposed to who they have the potential of becoming in the future — if they change.

Let’s say you are the president of a $10 million company seeking a CEO who will lead your company into the future. This company has been the sole means of support for your entire extended family for decades.

Would you hire a person with a track record of bad decisions and irresponsible behavior, but promises (if you believe in them just a little longer) they will change themselves into the CEO your company and family needs?

OR would keep interviewing candidates until you find someone whose actions, decisions, and priorities prove them a trustworthy person, qualified to be your CEO.

When our emotions are involved, we often forget that we are choosing our life partner. Emphasis on “partner”

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s a lot more to building and keeping a healthy relationship than just love. One of the biggest factors is shared values. In your case, the two of you don’t share the same ones, in fact, your values are complete opposites. What does that tells you?

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