[Samson]

I need you to act as my liaison. You so called that one. I made the mistake of mentioning something about her new BF the other day, and she lost her shit!!! So time to pay the lawyers.

Good call, Thank you April.

[Samson]

Thank you April. You are true lady, and I respect your advice deeply. I think you are right. Get the divorce over with ASAP, and date for a while. XOXO

[Samson]

Thank you April, wise as always. We are not getting back together, but are still legally married for insurance reasons. But that will end soon as well. For now I plan to take your advice, just hope to meet someone with a brain and is okay with me being a little broken.

[Samson]

I agree with April, she may not be ready to go into a relationship right away, but make sure she knows you are there for her. And I think April is right, you should ask her to go out some place new. Try Dairy Queen, all women love ice cream, right?

[Samson]

Could it be that he really does consider himself single? If he does not have a real commitment to you, or this other person, then technically he is single. Is it possible this other girl is just a FWB? It sounds like you have a pretty good feel for what kind of guy he is, trust your instincts. Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.

[Samson]

Alley, April is right. Do not be fearful of breaking up with this loser. And I am happy to hear that you know you can’t change him, you just need to convince yourself of it. As far as him changing on his own, not going to happen. And don’t listen to his B.S. when you break it off, because I have a news flash for you. Guys will say/do ANYTHING if they think it MIGHT get them laid. So my advise to you is to take the high road, be mature, and direct. Just tell him that things are just not working out between the two of you, and wish him good luck on his future. Make sure you bring him back anything he may have at your place, and get all of your stuff from his place so you have no reason to call or see each other. Make it a clean break and keep a cool head at all times. Wait until you have left and then pull over and cry if you need to.
But, I want to tell you something else. I totally understand the feeling of wanting someone in your life to love, and validate you. Believe me I have spent my share of nights lonely and depressed because I couldn’t be with the girl I loved, or because there was no girl at all. It wasn’t until after I had stopped looking for someone that I met my wife. But that is a whole other post. For now I think the best thing for you to do is just date for a while. That doesn’t mean you have to have sex with every guy that you go out with. The kind of man you are looking for would never respect a woman that sleeps around. Also, one last thing, if you have the time to take care of it, and spend time with it and not just chain him up in the yard – Get a DOG. They will never cheat on you, they give unconditional love, they are the best home protection, and, (this is important) you only get them for a short time, so love them and protect them as much as you can well their still with you.
I lost my best friend almost 20 years ago, and when I think about him I cry like a five year old with a skinned knee. To this day I cant even have a picture of him out.

Best of luck to you, just be strong and don’t settle for less then what you want.

[Samson]

Hi Alley, you sound kind of young and naïve about guys, don’t worry it’s okay, I’m a guy but I’m here to help. Please do not be insulted by me, I mean no disrespect. Only honest observation. First off, is this guy a teenager or close to it? Maybe just out of mommy and daddy’s basement? You have very keen instincts and have pick up several red flag (PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR INSTINCTS) They are there for a reason! Has he told you he loves you, or better yet has he shown that he loves you outside of the bedroom? Who says it first? You, or him? You are either his girlfriend, or just the girl he is currently F#&king?
I think you know. I know what walking into my girlfriends room and seeing pictures of her old boyfriend by her bed would do. It would get me the hell out of there and away from this asshole that is obviously using you for sex. But that is just my take on the situation, maybe I’m wrong?

[Samson]

April, I really hope I did not offend you, are anyone else for that matter. I was serious when I asked the question only because this has actually happened to me when I was younger, by more then one girl. I am so happy with your answer! It helps to put my mind ease on a multiple levels. And it gives me hope. Thank you very much.

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