[Misunderstood]

O.k thanks that put more clarity to my situation. And from what your saying it is just going to take time for me to get my rationalisations about this marriage.

[Misunderstood]

I am 35 this year.

[Misunderstood]

I had four children before I started a relationship with him they are know six, eight, twelve, and thirteen he has he has eight or nine other children two are thirteen and nine. That he still has to take care of the rest of his kids are in there late twenties and thirties. We both have children from previous relationships. I have two by him and pregnant with the third I feel that is the only reason why we are still together because I keep on getting pregnant I was on the pills but when we moved I could not get to the dr. Every month to get my refills because we only had one car working and he would come home late everyday. So I could not get to do any of my running around that needs to be done. By the way his two children by me are three and two. I feel like I made a big mistake when I chose to be with him. I thought he was wonderful until over the years I got to know how he really is. I would have went to Vegas to get on section eight . So he is still committed to his x-wife’s kids he still does for them by time he gets done doing for all of his kids or whomever he still helps I get the short end of the stick every time. I don’t think we will be together to much longer after I have the kids. But now I feel obligated to stay with him because of my little babies. I just did not think this through very well. That’s the story of my life. I needed to talk to someone about this to maybe get some clarity. Help me through my insanity n hatred that I feel for him everyday. I will never trust him again. How do I get some clarity out of this insanity?

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I tired having to compete and loosing the battle every time. How do I get more respect?

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Well for the past six years that we have been together before I got pregnant I was taking some brush up computer classes to start a new job. I had a recently found a job around the time I met him but I broke my ankle and I had just started the job so I had to quit. So I was trying start over and found out I was pregnant with my fifth child and it seems since then I have not Ben able to get back on my feet. Aa year after that I got pregnant again and know a year later I am pregnant again. I an not seem to get out of this rut that I am in. In themean time we have had money to get furniture over n over again before I could get furniture I find out that he has spent thee money either on his x wife’s kids or his older kids and his children’s mothers. He says he doesnot want me to work at first I was relieved until I seen how he was doing things all of his prior commitments always seem to before me n my children. And i havenot been able to getmyselftogether so I can for my kids n myself. So I am trying to see if I can work from home so I don’t have to depend on him on him for everything anymore. I feel I always get the bad end of the stick with him. We recently bought a house together with my settlement money and before we bought the house all the money was spent and the majority he spent. I am very frustrated because I am stuck and its taking a lot of time for me to get on my feet so I can for myself n my kids. He does take care of us but I feel he could be doing more if he would put us first and not them. Am I selfish that I hate I share our money so much that he feels that they need things more than we do?

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Yes how do I get respect from him. And get out of the child zone with him.

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