Thanks for the advice but we may be past that. I buy gifts and flowers at least once a month as a rule, we have at least a weekly date night, and I cook dinner and clean a lot around the house. I am also the sole breadwinner currently, we got a dog together, and the love life has been very good and satisfying for us both. I am worried that things have gotten to the point where no matter what we do she is always going to keep that connection to him open and will not be able to let go. She has a hard tome even talking to me about it and it usually ends up making her cry, which is the only time she ever does.