[Faghul133]

I have been taking ur advise and I agree with you, I really do appreciate it. And I’m going to take it on. I replied to the text very casually however I replied in the evening and her text was in the morning, so I definitely took ages to respond. Strangely and funny enough, she hasn’t responded even though I know she has used her phone so far… Now if she ignores again what is this indicating? Selfishness, attention seeking, wants to be chased? Now the situation has changed slightly due to her texting me today. Really do look forward to hearing from you on this one.

[Faghul133]

She has actually texted me today saying “Hey whatsup” while she was at work. I think that’s quite brave of her to, how should I react? What do you think April?

Thanks again, sorry for the hectic thread!

[Faghul133]

I’m not ready to give up completely yet as its the first time she’s ignored me since we’ve been speaking and meeting again
, I do want to try and win her over, but it’s the thought of how, I could just act normal and speak to her again, in which case she could reply or just ignore again, which would give me a clearer indication of whether shes interested, what would you suggest I do in this tricky position? I do want to win her over, I was thinking to completely not contact her, just judging by history between us, she did come back. Any thoughts on what I posted earlier too? What could be going through her head? Does it look like she wants to be chased? Would she mention “next weekend” for nothing? Approach me to kiss me at the end of the date? Bit confused 🙁

I appreciate your thoughts.
Thanks!

[Faghul133]

just a brief add on, prior to her ignoring my text asking her if shes ok, she would give me cold/one word answers (i communicated with her 2 days after our date), could she be upset from me, i dont recall doing anything bad. I mean who would do that if they were supposedly interested in someone, especially since she said “next weekend” for another date when I asked her before leaving. With all my knowledge and experience I couldn’t understand it at all, I’ll leave that to you! Thanks again.

[Faghul133]

Thank you for your prompt reply, I think I do make it clear I like her however I have not clearly told her that but with me holding her hand and kissing and asking her whether she preferred to go back to mine should give it away, yes I do like her & I want to know her more but it is fading now and I feel I should move on and see if she replies to my text or contacts me. I do talk to her and I have always maintained communication, I was mostly initiating the date to meet up etc. Our last conversation was bad, she was not talkative at all and she clearly ignored my last text which has caused this scenario, I could feel a sense of uninterested as I actually asked her if she was ok and if she had a good day, no reply!. I feel if I text her again it may show a sign of need or may worsen the situation and she may lose complete interest. I’m trying to show her it doesnt bother me if she doesnt talk to me or want to see me, even though I really like her. I know deep down I’m sure she still has a slight attraction or interest to me, otherwise why kiss me goodbye last time I saw her? Normally girls would hug or kiss on the cheek if they weren’t interested at the end of the date. Chasing after a girl that has ignored you deliberately is difficult for a guy who likes a girl, why would she ignore my text if she liked me? Why doesn’t she contact me knowing she has left me to dry on my previous question/text to her? I was not over-talking or over texting. she must knows from past history i never chased her when she was out of my sight but she did seem to make her way back in (ive known her for 2 years, we had 1 date 2 years ago). Im a bit puzzled on how to approach her now, im very cautious and if anything she has pushed me back, however just days prior to that we were all well. I dont know what has caused her to disappear or why to ignore and act careless -it must be due to that last date clearly? as I did tell her I have stuff on my mind and I personally didn’t really enjoy the date as much as I wanted to, good thing is we ended up holding hands and kissing on her way home – but that was at the end of the date only and she did add on to how bad the nail salon did her nails, which would indicate how she values her image around me, However I did initiate a next date while being with her – she did reply “next weekend” . I appreciate your thoughts/ideas/expertise and I would take your recommendations on this one and see how it goes 🙂

When she ignored my text I did not contact her again whatsoever. One thing I must add is on the date while we were sitting she did show me a text from a guy who was trying to win back [i]her close friend[/i] and he was clearly trying to ask her (my date) to help him win her back, she told me how he should man-up, I took [i]big note of this[/i] as ANY girl talking about someone’s else’s relationship/ or her ex bf is trying to get some sort of understanding on the relationship grounds from her/his date. Is she expecting me to contact her? What must be going through her mind? Is she still interested? These questions I could never answer and I wish I knew.

P.s – apologies for the prolonged text and the complication it may have added!, I really needed to get things clear for you to have an accurate understanding.

Thanks again April!

[Faghul133]

Hi, by the way the issues she was experiencing were not related to past relationships or guys anything like that, however I don’t think it has any connection to the situation now. Thank you!

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