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[quote]It could be — but if you want to know if he’s interested in you, then flirt with him. If he flirts back, then you’ll know he is. Guys like something to chase after, and if you flirt with him, you’ll be giving him a sign that you’re interested in him, and that opens the door for him to flirt back — if he’s interested at all.[/quote]

How do I flirt with him? What do I do exactly? I’m inexperienced with flirting. How do I do it without seeming too desperate?

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. I did start talking to “J” already. In my first post in this thread- I did say that I had a casual conversation with him during the seminar. Towards the end of the seminar- after the girl (I will refer to her as “L” here)- told me that “J” has many friends & drinks alcohol- I went to the bathroom. When I returned- I rubbed my hands with hand sanitizer because I returned from the bathroom. I kept the bottle of hand sanitizer in my hand when the group of 40-50 people in the room began to form a circle for a game. We were instructed to hold hands with each person at both of our sides. “J”‘s male cousin was standing besides me on the right & he suggested that I hold hands with “J” instead. “Put your bottle of hand sanitizer away so you can hold J’s hand,” someone suggested to me. I agreed. “J” was holding my hand at the right and a girl was holding my hand at the left. It was a hula hoop game. (Each person in the circle had to go through the hoop and pass it on to the next person while holding hands) Before the game started- I asked someone to take a picture of me & “J” holding hands. The person obeyed and I asked for a copy of the pic. When she was about to take the pic- “J” jerked away as if he didn’t want the pic taken. But he went back to his place holding my hand and he allowed her to take the picture.

Most of the people in the group were thrilled when “J” & I were holding hands- although it was just a game. Some people were cheering. As soon as the game ended- “J” let go of my hand and he began to pack his things. I approached him and I said to him, “Bye. You are welcome to come to my house when you’re ready.” He smiled and he gave me a thumbs up sign.
That was it. That was a week ago.
(earlier at the seminar when I was having a casual conversation with him about an hour before the game- I told him, “I know that you’re good at playing the guitar.” He nodded. I said, “I play the piano.” He asked, “What songs do you play?” I said, “If you come to my house- I will show you what songs.”)

The night after the seminar- my friend “K” told me that her classmates were at the seminar and they told her that they thought it was romantic when “J” & I were holding hands and most of the people there felt happy for us.

P.S. Throughout the seminar- whenever I looked at him- he smiled at me. I smiled back. There were times when I was the one who smiled first and he smiled in return. There was one time when I looked at him- his eyebrows were raising as he smiled at me. (I think this happened more than once) I just read somewhere that the raising of the eyebrows in a guy (when he looks at a girl) is a sign of attraction or flirting. Is this true??

Should I keep an eye on “L” and his other female friends to see what competition I may have? Could they be a threat to me?

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