[vicequeen]

I tried to respond, think I messed it up.
I am 33 and he is 28. He has PTSD from being in the army. He has been a stay at home dad to my 2 kids out of his choice, and I haven’t nagged him to get a job, only told him it was his choice and I support it either way. I know being at home bothers him, and that the weight he gained disgusts him, even though it isn’t much and I still think he looks great.
I am just not sure I can deal with this. My options seem to be get some hardware and handle myself (don’t want to), end things (cue panic attacks and physical pain at the thought), or ask for an open relationship. If I did that, I am not sure it would go over well and I am not the sharing type, so I can’t justify asking him to share me…

[vicequeen]

I am 33, he is 28. We met and started dating very soon after, 3 years ago. Engaged for approximately 4 months, no set date. He is an army veteran, with PTSD. I am bipolar/ADHD, with 2 children. He is at the moment a stay at home dad to them. This was his choice, and I have not gotten on his case about it, only told him if he wanted to go back to work then I was all for it but that I don’t want him to feel forced. I know he is unhappy with himself for not being the breadwinner, and for gaining a little weight. We were never that couple that got intimate all the time, but we have gone from once a week average to once every two months, and now he says it won’t happen again at all.

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