[Carlys955]

With the past cheating he said that he wasn’t in a relationship with her anymore and that they were living together and “co-parenting” (as he called it) for the sake of the kid. He said that they hadn’t been intimate in close to a year and he knew she was out fooling around so he did it too. He has also in the past said to me “I won’t cheat on you as long as you don’t do it to me”, which sounds like it is a revenge thing.

When we fight they’re usually pretty heated arguments that end quickly (so if they happen at night, they’re usually resolved by the next morning) and there haven’t really been instances when they’ve lasted longer than a day.

He’s also made comments that he wouldn’t bring me into his child’s life if he was just going to hurt me and cheat on me Bc that would impact that child (to have my around and then not).

I love him and things for the most part with us are pretty good, but like I said I’ve been hurt by this in the past and don’t want to have it happen again.

[Carlys955]

Thanks for your response! Overall, the relationship is good, but we do tend to go through spurts where we fight quite often. He has a child from a previous relationship and most of the fights revolve around that and trying to figure out what works best for us as a family. He also has some difficulty seeing his fault in anything which makes some arguments blow up more than they should. As far as past cheating goes, he cheated on the child’s mother but said it was because they werent really in a relationship and that she was doing it to him as well. He told me he wouldn’t do it to me and that I have to trust him but I just don’t know. Does this help to give a better picture?

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