How can I approach it though? I’ve tried asking him the reasoning behind it many times. He told me that there really was no reason he was just bored and it was like “looking at porn for him that’s all”. I asked him why he said things like that we were separated..and I also saw him tell a girl he had made out with two girls while we were married. His answer is always the same – he doesn’t remember why he would say it but it’s not true. He says because those particular conversations were from so long ago that he just doesn’t know why he said it.
Can it really just be a sexual porn thing? He swears up and down he’ll never do it again since he now knows that it is unacceptable and hurtful to me. I know every case is different, but from your experience do they ever actually stop? My fear is that he will only get better at hiding it. I told him – please, if there is something missing, if you want more excitement or to spice things up, please tell me and let’s do it. I feel like our relationship has dwindled to where I only get glimpses of passion sometimes. He even feels that he has to lie to me about going to strip clubs – which I asked him not to go to. Is there anyway to reroute his focus so that he can experience the “new & exciting” wants with me?
