Thank you for your quick & candid response/…you’re right, that is pretty tough to hear–or do, though I have tried a few times, it always seems a few months goes by & I hear from him again…..sometimes I wish I had never dated him or that I knew one or both of us didn’t feel as we do for the other–then it would be easier to accept the friendship for what it is….
Oddly enough for many years I did write it all off–the hope I mean…& I have been in relationships & am very active socially, physically, and intellectually…..there just always feels like unfinished business is looming & it’s been there even when I’ve taken a 6month sebaticle from speaking to him…..
I do hear you on the respect issue…..I do & have respected the union of their marriage–in the regard that there is a definite line that is not crossed….it is difficult though to cut off a person you care about–especially when that person has few others to count on–who aren’t just trying to clean him out–we don’t discuss their relationship–I’m not sure if I made it sound as if we do? that too I would not do–actually the problem he mentioned was that a significant amount of $ had been stolen from him….It seems I have backed myself into a corner on this one….I understand what & why you are telling me to cut him loose–on the other hand it feels as though we are the only two who really know & trust each other…..but you are right–I do deserve it all–especially for that reason….I will have to untangle this mess, thank you!
