Yes indeed you made a point there.he never really asked me to get back together. but i also don’t think he will ask, he’s ashamed of how he was towards me during the last year of our relationship and from what i can feel he’s more like ‘ its what ever you decide ‘ from earlier conversations it was clear it was what he wanted we had several conversations how he went on about ‘ feeling bad it went sour, wishing it didnt, it always being on his mind how it would have been if he didnt do what he did and we were still with him, but how he is scared of it going bad again’ i think the ball is on my side but I’m not sure how to bring this subject up again, and not sure how to deal with it, as we are in a very unusual situation and live in different countries, so theres no easy way and we cant really be like ‘ okay lets start going on a few dates and see from there on’