[b]April:[/b]
1. She does not have any sort of belief against sex or sex before marriage or any of that. She also doesn’t really have anyone to talk to about it…..her older twin sisters (whom are my age) have never had boyfriends according to her, and probably have never had sex either I am guessing. I’ve tried to tell her to perhaps talk to some of her friends to see if she could get advice from them but it sounds like her friends have really only given her basic basic ideas (i.e. use lube, use a condom, etc.)
2. She has talked to her gynecologist on her last appt. about a month ago to see if everything checked out physically, but I don’t think she talked to her about her actual fear of sex, etc. Perhaps I will suggest to her to do that?
3. And you are right, she is very tense. Every time we have attempted intercourse she is very very tense and will not even hardly spread her legs at all. Now in terms of oral sex, I haven’t really done a whole lot in that dept, mostly because she doesn’t really fully let me do what I want to do. When I am licking her she will either say it feels weird or hurts, or if I stay on the extreme northern edge of her ‘area’, after a little bit she will tell me to stop and i’ll say “whats wrong?” and she’ll say “its just too much, too intense, I cant handle it”. So I cannot seem to do oral sex on her the way I want to do it. In terms of having multiple orgasms, we have only done that a few times, and it takes a lot out of her. She usually does not have the energy to do more than one orgasm. I have the energy obviously, I have no problem getting her off. The only time I can ever even go inside her is with a finger and its only right at the split second when she starts to orgasm and during her orgasm. I can put my finger pretty much all the way in her then and she says it feels amazing, but in terms of me fingering her from the get-go to try and achieve an orgasm, she says it doesn’t do much and it feels much better just rubbing her a bit further up a whole lot, like we usually do.
