[elaine30]

I told him i cant be with him because of this and he said that he was sorry and wanted to start fresh. What should I tell him at this point. I told him lets just focus on the baby and be friends but, he insist that he wants to be with me. What should I say to him?

[elaine30]

do u think this is something that can be worked out between us.

[elaine30]

sorry I forgot to mention that now he supposedly is not going to DR anymore. and also not to sound stupid but why does he keep telling me he lo rd me,misses me and wants to be with me if he’s not that into me.

[elaine30]

what should I say to him ?

[elaine30]

should I end our relationship and just tell him let’s focus on the baby?

[elaine30]

my boyfriend let me use his computer to do work on and he left his email and password in the login. I checked his email and see that he had several pics of a female that lives in Dominican republic where he will be visiting this summer . the emails were forwarded from his work email. I also see that he joined several dating websites and sent his cellphone number to females. when I confronted him about the above he got mad and said I shouldn’t be looking through his stuff and when I asked him about her he said she was a friend before me. I asked him if he’s seeing her and he said no. I asked him if he wanted to separate and see other people and he said he’s happy with me. every time I bring it up he gets mad . when I asked him when the last time he had contact with her he said a year ago but I saw a message from 2 months ago. he said that he can’t help it if females send him pictures, when I explained that he would be mad if it was me. he agreed. what should I do. I love him but don’t want to feel like I can’t trust him. how do I proceed? he continues to talk to me like he did nothing and like nothing happened. the inky thing he can say is I went through hi stuff. he denies any relations with this girl at all. the pictures we of her fully dressed and some bathing suit pics. every time I see him I feel betrayed. I am7 months pregnant but told him tell me if he wants space. he said no. what should I do

[elaine30]

how do I start a new post?

[elaine30]

I am 7 months pregnant and both me and my boyfriend live with our mothers temporarily, just one block in distance from each other. he usually comes to my house every night after work but, lately he’s been staying at his mother s house 1day a week. Also whenever he comes over my house he doesn’t bring his cellphone anymore because he claims that he receives emails at all times of night from work. should I suspect that he might be cheating or is this normal???

[elaine30]

Thank you for your advice you have put a lot into perspective for me. Moving forward, since he’s not going on this trip until may and we are in January, how can I deal with him? This situation leaves me feeling insecure and uncertain about our future. FYI: I am an adult but, should I continue to put all my eggs in one basket. I definitely would not take away his duty of being a dad but his credibility and judgement really seem to suck. I talked to him about selling the ticket and to be quite honest I don’t even think he told his friend I’m pregnant . We never met, just talked over the phone. His friend is very single and very successful.

[elaine30]

I am upset at everything you listed below. He denies dating anyone in between and constantly tells me that hes a one woman man. He is someone that i want to marry and be monogamous with, i just feel like you said, hes doing something single and all he can say is that he cant get his money back and his friend will be upset. Even though he denies that he will cheat, and tells me he will call me everyday i do not know how i will feel emotionally once he goes. A part of me wants to cut off all contact and make him suffer with the thought that he could do such a thing as if he is a bachelor and make him have to contact me via email. New address and new cell phone number. He ask me to have his baby in June and claims that he didnt know about the trip until September, and his friend paid for everything. i do not know any men that go to Dominican Republic to look. I feel betrayed, he begged me to have his baby

if you are upset about his going abroad without you because he’s leaving you alone with a two month old, or because he’s going on a “bachelor” type of trip where he may be dating other women, or because you’re jealous of his relationship with his male friend with whom he’s traveling, or because you feel that traveling abroad is something you want to do as a couple, and he’s acting single by going without you.

Is this guy someone you want to marry? Live with? Be monogamous with? What kind of relationship do you want with him?

[elaine30]

Your def right, minus the off and on because the times we broke up, were my decision and simply because he was too boring at the time. I do love him but i am just disappointed and wonder if what we have now is real or fake, the times we spend together, the days he come with me to every hospital visit, calling me in the morning to see if i am okay, and planning a surprise baby shower. So are u saying that i should not look foward to having a future with someone like this and distance myself now? Since i cant talk to him about this because, it always starts an arguement ending with im insecure, or all I think about is him being with another woman.

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