thank you April… i just checked and saw your reply…. u r so right…. it takes time…and i have good weeks… and then a bad day… and yet i know your advice are the absolute truth… and am moving forward every day… in know in time.. that the lessons learned this time around… will be worth it.. and i will be able to finally have a much better relationship….because i have learned what i did in the beginning was to allow this negative loser to take up my time… and then my life…. soooo again thank you…. and btw .. i ordered your book.. and can hardly wait to get my hands on it.. and read it!!!….thanks a million /~!!