Thank you so much. The problem is that not much does work, sexually. Since he is so uncomfortable with going down on me, I honestly don’t know what we can do in order for me to get there (without using toys, I know that will only make him feel even more like he is insufficient), especially since he can’t stay hard for long enough…and even when he does, it is over very quickly. I know he feels awful about it, and although it does sound like he might not be one to reciprocate in other areas of my life, he actually does. And he is very generous. And he does feel so bad that he’s so turned off by the act of going down on a woman.
Even erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation aside, I am wondering what I can do to bring him out of his shell sexually, or make him feel more comfortable and confident with my body. This is my first time with all of this, and he is pretty inexperienced as well, so I am struggling.
He does seem self absorbed. He just has quite a few issues, and he has trouble dealing/coping with things emotionally. He very much holds on to every little piece of past as well – particularly the bad. So this is a real challenge. I am supposing he should see a physician for his health as you’ve suggested, and maybe to a therapist as well, though convincing him that he needs to go will be very difficult.
I apologize for asking so many questions and for really struggling with this. This is my first real relationship, and he is also the first man I have been sexually active with. But thank you for your help!
