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Meet a nice guy in a bar recently. Constantly was looking at me as soon as me and a friend stood near,we seemed to instantly click. Eventually got talking. He was with 2 other friends. He invited us back to his house for a drink (he and his friend were both cops, also we had mutual friends so it was safe enough) Things were going good until his friend started coming onto me while we were alone in another room. He came in and saw and seemed really upset about. At first his friend was trying to come onto me in front of him but he pulled me away. After he saw I went his sleazy friend tried to stop me leaving the room. But he came along and we ended up kissing. He wanted to take things further but I said no. Ended up sleeping there as we had no way home but in spare room. This is not my usual method of operation but …Tried friending him on facebook the next day and messaging apologising, but he never replied. Week later seen his sleazy friend, and told him off for being sleazy. Few days later he replied, just saying hope all is good it was a good nights fun. Thing is, he just recently broke up with his girlfriend. Was this just rebound? One night stand material? Or any genuine interest? Seems his friend was claimimg he made out with me, maybe he thought so so never bothered contacting me back at first. He genuinely seemed interested all night , has a good reputation for being a really good guy, but was bit drunk by the end. How can I make things seem right or any advice t avoid falling for these sitautions?

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Thanks for the advice. Some more would be great as I’m still involved with this guy. So we agreed to be cool with being just friends. Since I’ve meet him once for coffee and a few times with friends. He asked me to go to a few events (but mainly when his date cancelled). And seemed mad when I declined to go! Whenever we meet up, the conversations always seem to be polite and not much about real feeling. Its not that he is not expressive (he is a musician!!) its just that it seems like he doesnt know if or what he feels towards me. I messaged him confronting him, telling him how I felt and that it seems like hes just playing a game. He apologised and explained and agreed we should meet up for a proper chat about feelings. But then he reclined by saying he was busy (which I know he was). His answers are quite vague. Instead of properly trying to meet up to chat, he asks me to come to his gig (he is a musician) where once again nothing of substance would be said between us! I declined telling him why but I havent heard back from him since. It seems like he is up for chatting properly then backs away. But never would dismiss me in anyway, just seems to leave things hanging. I dont understand why! I know he has had a very troublesome relationship in the past which I think he is not properly over. But I dont know if he genuinely wants to be in contact with me or am I pushing him? He knows I have feelings for him even though we agreed to be friends. Is he genuinely confused or genuinely not bothered? How can I let him go for good this time???

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