Thank you both for your loving replies.
I’ve been telling him pretty much the same thing already & I know he understands and agrees. He’s an emotional man deep down but keeps it protected as he’s been hurt badly in the past. Even though it wasn’t his fault that his marriage ended he feels a great deal of guilt for not being a full time dad. His daughter has learnt this behaviour from her mother who I’ve yet to meet anyone who likes her, except her children. She has a massive hold on those kids & has raised them with a lot of negativity towards their dad & plays the poor me card with them a lot. From what I’ve heard she is also very manipulative & selfish. He has chosen not to tell his kids why the marriage ended because he doesn’t think they are old enough to hear that about their mum, I admire it but I also see the disrespect that they give him because they’ve been told he’s the bad guy.
I’ve been through the teenage years with my daughter & son already, they are now both in their 20s. Sure they had an attitude problem at times but they always knew where the boundaries were & never crossed the line. I have a 10 year old as well & it does bother me that she is watching how this girl behaves & gets away with it. I’m very open & constantly explain to my daughter that it’s not right & why as I don’t want it to affect her.
His kids have prevented him from going further with previous relationships & he’s aware of that & doesn’t want to lose me because we’ve both never had anything as wonderful as what we have with each other.
If I didn’t love this man so much, I would leave.
