Thank you for your reply.
I forgot to mention we met online but it was military community website, in the politics debate forum.
I realized from my previous marriage that functionality only works when both sides have similar wavelengths of practicality and when it’s not on similar wavelengths the relationship, the emotions along with it become whirlpool of a mess.
Actually dating is quite a challenge for me, because it very hard for me to find someone to match my pace which I seem to be excessively slow then most people regardless of the physical aspect (That’s actually the easiest part for me, the most enjoyable and simple.)
I feel whether I am dating or in an exclusive relationship to build moments to cherish and interact for the good things & bad conlicts. I might be overly romantic or idealistic but later on after the hurdles of the two parties differences then we both feel right about ourselves and each other, it isn’t too late to make the moves to plans that was discussed then.
Most of the men I end up meeting are great in their own way but the persistence and rushing make me step all the way back home and lock the door shut.
I have to admit I like the relationships that are at ease with plenty of room inbetween for each other, comfortably enjoying each other’s company when we can while having enough alone time to do things and so on.
That might be one of the reasons why I got along with man so well until the issue became a red flagged problem.
To be honest, I do still have a fondness for him but not like when we were together. I had to refocus my prospective and I truly do wish him to meet someone great that suits him and would be happy to hear about it maybe even give me hope (considering how picky and consistent our personalities are) in finding that fits me.
Like you advised me I think I am going to have to carefully review this, I still would like to hear from him to know how he is as a friend but it might not be that simple after all.If the occasion arises I’ll just have to be painfully blunt to him.
By the way sorry to add on another question but how can I have the pace of a relationship slow down more easily then screaming to a halt as I always do?
Thank you again and will apply the advice you have given me while I wait for my additional questions answer.
