[Crazedfool]

The point is do I need more experience with life/women in order to give oht advice or is it easier to give it out and not necessarily do?

Secondly. Are you taking on staff? Lol 😆

[Crazedfool]

You posting as you do here has made me think too. (Without stepping on your toes unless you wanted help on here). I want to become a person who helps people through these sort of problems, yet get paid for it. Better to if it is online as my plan was to go abroad and if I did this sort of thig online there wouldn’t be a language barrier.

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[quote=”April Masini”]There’s something about their unpleasant behavior that you keep going back to for more, and you need to ask yourself why. 😯 After all of this, over the course of years, you’re still giving them more chances, you have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for you being the person who puts yourself in situations where you feel devalued and angry. And if you, as an adult, decide to have sex with someone, it’s not fair for you to blame others or their behavior. It sounds like you want to blame someone other than yourself. 😕 It’s time for you to take charge of your own life and behave in ways that are healthy for you. 😉

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It’s like say there’s 3 of us. The unpleasantries are there, when there’s 2 everything is good. Even though it’s the same set of people and it doesn’t matter what Person I am with. It goes sour when the group gets bigger. I just caved into peer pressure. Stupid I know and won’t be doing that again. Which is why I am going to the next event and dropping massive hints that you can’t relay on me being there all the time as I normally am. Then I will stop going as I do have a plan for my life and now this has made me think it’s worth doing and not holding back.

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Oh when people say they. They don’t mean stick to what your good at as they know I hate my current job and I went through a phase of getting regular interviews and I had no good lucks or good will wishes. Just them actig stunned hat I got the interview and how they would either avoid the new place of my workplace or take advantage if I got the job.

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Calling me Virgin boy, various words for wimp and even come out with stuff like I am going to be one of these 45 year old virgins who still live with their parents. I am no longer a Virgin as I met someone for some fun as a one off. This sort of behaviour brought me to do this and I am not entirely happy with myself for meeting a randomer for it. However it has got me to worry a bit less when I do it with someone I care about and/or love. I tried saying “it’s all lies as I have met someone. Just because you don’t see it and I don’t mention it. Doesn’t mean it hasn’t happened. Didn’t really believe me and they saw I was upset as they started to say calm down as according to them I was being aggressive when defending myself. Just by using my voice.

I feel devalued, upset, etc as its been nearly 28 years, including 10 years of knowing them and no one has ever stood up for me and backed me up in any situation. They have either let me fight my battles alone by just sitting there in the corner while I get this abuse or they join in and then when any of us are alone and there’s only 2 of us. They shut up and we chat normally. I feel devalued also because they keep hitting a nerve as yes in a dream world I want to be with someone and I get the odd day where I feel bad as I don’t meet anyone. But in general I feel fine and am more focused on other things in my life at the moment.

Well in general I was basising this on a few people as a group and seeing whether it’s me who needs to toughen up or they need to be quiet more often? The last bit was just a separate question as that’s been bugging me too, but not as much. I agree with what your saying about meet new people and this is why I am going to give them one more chance. Then drop hints that they should be careful of what they say and to who. Not in a nasty way, but in a way so they know what they might lose if they carry on.

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Well you can say it’s like that. However they come out with nicknames when talking about it and when there’s a debate about anything happening. If they feel they are losing the debate as in they are being outsmarted.. They throw that in my face. Then I just shut up and feel devalued and my confidence just goes and I feel genuinely angry/upset. Plus I get the odd dig when with them like I have the word “dull” as a constant nickname by everyone and whenever I say something positive about myself. Some (not all of them) say I wouldn’t trust you to do that. You should stick to this. I’m thinking I want to better myself and you’re saying don’t bother as you don’t have it in you. After hearing both of these things for like 10 minutes I feel terrible about myself and it takes me a while to get those thoughts out of my head.

The reason I asked is because it feels like he’s gone from a decent enough bloke who won’t say “boo” to a goose. Into a bloke whose always changing their mood and gone really really arrogant. Again this normally is shown when we are all together and not when we are talking one on one.

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Thought it was for dating, sex advice see not just friendship.

Anyway I posted in here a few years back regarding me being a bit old not to have slept or done anything sexual with a woman and it’s sort of to do with that. Basically everytime there’s an outing I get a message if I want to come and when I go we always talk about work, life in general, sports, etc and we have a laugh. However when the subject of women came up I am the key/only part as it ends up being about me. Basically they either show like a disappointed look or make fun saying I al this or that and saying what a person my age does, etc. Now I don’t know if it’s banter or just making fun. When they first found out last year. I was having pep talks off them and I said I take what you say on board, but I can’t help what I feel and I don’t like these sort of chats for various reasons. I have told a couple of people this. Now those chats have stopped and I keep getting this now instead. Bare in mind that I didn’t say any of this (my lack of experience with women) to them. My best mate told them and then I got asked outright the next time I saw them. I know what I want/need in terms of finding a woman, but that isn’t my issue here. The issue is I don’t know of its banter and I need to toughen up or aren’t they mates at all.

Sticking with friendships. Apart from putting yor child first and your responsibilties changing. I was wondering is it possible to change your personality because of becoming a parent?

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