I’m brand new to online dating, but a friend convinced me to give Tinder a whirl. About a month ago I matched with a guy, and we really hit it off. Texted daily, and he asked if he could call me. Yep, actual phone call. Every time we talked on the phone, it was for hours. We talked about what we wanted, and were on the same page in regard to wanting to settle down, marriage, etc. He told me he was only even still on Tinder bc he was able to see my pics that way. During that conversation, he mentioned something about me still messaging guys on there.
He had a vacation planned, asked me to go with him…I couldn’t bc of a work trip. He works 80 hours a week, so once in a while, he wouldn’t respond to a text, which I understood. Last week, texted me that he was excited bc his schedule is changing in two weeks, and he was going to have free time so we could spend more time together. Last Friday, I sent him a good morning text (he did it almost every day, once in awhile I would send it first), and he didn’t respond. I didn’t hear from him all weekend. Aaand, then panic set it. I waited until Monday, shot him a text asking if he was excited for his trip, no response. At this point I assumed he just ghosted. But I had a few drinks and wed sent him a message on tinder saying he must have been abducted by aliens but hopefully they dropped him off at his vacation destination. Said i thought he was great guy, hoped he had a great trip, and left it at that. But in hindsight, I realize it might have come off passive/aggressive. Tinder said he’d been active so I presume he read it. Last night I changed a few of my pics on Tinder and this morning, poof! He unmatched me. The coincidence is unsettling to me. Did I let panic and paranoia just overcome me?! Part of me wants to contact him in a week or two and just ask him what happened…and yes, I realize how crazy/needy I’m sounding, but wth…I feel like I deserve some explanation at this point, even if it’s that he just lost interest. I mean, what’s the worst that can happen, he already stopped responding to me. Lol. There’s just a part of me that is blaming myself and wondering if I pushed it too far! Help.
