[thebiglimp]

thank you. so what do you think, april? 🙂

[thebiglimp]

hi april. i had time to look back on my posts, and reminiscent. and just would like to thank you for your past insight. i’d like to think that i’ve improved since then, and my uhm, enrichment of social lifes seem to be the proof of that.

but this latest person truly confuses me.

she did not want an emotional relationship, and i forced it upon her. i see that now. but the way she cried on me that night made me completely fall for her, and it’s something i cannot ignore even now, after she has left.
i feel that she cried, and the way the emotions built up to that tear, was because she truly had feelings for me. but maybe i read it wrong, and if i did, i do not want to make the same painful mistake again. on that last meet, she acted it as if it was the most casual of the hookups, almost ignoring to talk to me, then after we had sex, making small talks, i could not hide my sadness and she also became sad in her voice. and as we parted, she said bye, and turned around and started crying. i took that as a sign that she was sad to say goodbye, because she loved me. so i assured her there was nothing to be afraid of, i would not let her down, and we decided to go on a date, like a real couple.

did i read her tears right? did she have that kind of feelings for me? if so, me chasing her to bitter end i do not regret.

thank you once again for your reply. it’s always most helpful.

[thebiglimp]

Hi April, it’s been a while since i started this ‘game’, had ups and downs but the recent one once again confuses me to no end.

i met this girl on tinder for a one night stand, sex is incredible, turns into two, three night stands. i wanna make it more permanent, a relationship, so i ask her out, she refuses, we still meet for you-know-what, then on the fifth and the last time, i let it be known in so many words that i will not see her again unless we go on a date. once again she refuses, letting me know that this is pure tinder/sex thing and she has other guys lined up. but somehow we get emotional in the end of the night, and as i leave, she starts crying. sad, genuine tears. i comfort her, assuring her that she can trust me.

so we go on a date the next week, planning to spend the whole day together but she overreacts on little things i say, acting pissed off all day, and after dinner, tells me to go home. we barely had any communication that day, her just overreacting and ignoring me, while still spending time together for 6 hours… we now only text briefly, and she avoids the question of next date.

the girl definitely has an abandonment issues, and i’d like to know why she behaved that way during the date, and why she cried.

here are some factors that confuse me even more

-she had at least two guys i know of, lined up for short term dating thing. she’d tell me she had dinner with this guy, cuddled with that guy, ect. these i know for truth. yet she cries at little old me when i ask her for a date, the same kind of thing?

-she did text me after ditching me that night that she was afraid of love. but given the circumstances, and the fact it was but a text, i still find it hard to believe she was telling the truth. i mean she acts like i’m dirt then sends me that kind of dramatic comment?

i still would like to win her over if i can. she barely keeps contact with me now, often times replying with a picture instead of text. i know she sometimes takes them on the spot so i’d think it would be just as much work as typing…

[thebiglimp]

here are some factors that confuse me even more

-she had at least two guys i know of, lined up for short term dating thing. she’d tell me she had dinner with this guy, cuddled with that guy, ect. these i know for truth. yet she cries at little old me when i ask her for a date, the same kind of thing?

-she did text me after ditching me that night that she was afraid of love. but given the circumstances, and the fact it was but a text, i still find it hard to believe she was telling the truth. i mean she acts like i’m dirt then sends me that kind of dramatic comment?

i still would like to win her over if i can. she barely keeps contact with me now, often times replying with a picture instead of text. i know she sometimes takes them on the spot so i’d think it would be just as much work as typing…

[thebiglimp]

hi april, you are giving me the same impression. but nobody’s all knowing, even though i am the least knowledgeable in the subject of dating 😛

what i should’ve disclosed before the assumption took place is that i am an expat in korea with no means of transferring funds to my paypal account without asking my family for the ‘donation’, and i do not know where she works at because that’s not where i met her.

so i cannot buy your book, and i cannot apologize to her in person.

so before offending you any further, i’d like to know based on what i’ve told you now if there’ still redemption for me both from you and her.

thanks and regards,

eric

[thebiglimp]

hi april, thanks for the help once more.

so is the book still open somewhat if her answers were ‘i don’t know’ ‘i don’t think it’s going to work’ ‘i don’t know what to say anymore’, instead of a firm rejection?

but then again, she seemed like a very complaisant girl who has hard time saying no.

and yeah, i think i treated the whole meet rather too lightly which probably made her feel unimportant… i’m learning still. 🙂

[thebiglimp]

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[thebiglimp]

Hi April, got a new one for you 🙂
So i’m in the dating game now and this is what happened to me couple nights ago.

met this girl for a coffee, left after about 2 hours of chat that was a bit wooden.

she works late so i asked over the text for the second date and she says she doesn’t know. she felt like she was being judged, lessened.
i was as polite and nice as possible so i have no idea where she could’ve gotten that impression.

Do you think she is just rationalizing her disinterest?

she keeps saying ‘i don’t know’

[thebiglimp]

thanks april. i will do so from now on and please do erase this thread right away.

[thebiglimp]

thanks april. but 29th day was when i asked her out for the last time(3rd time), in person even though she already seemed visibly avert. i ended the tone so that she’d know i understood it was over. but come 3 days later her attitude is even worse. even more avert of me, just sitting on the counter with her eyes closed, armed folded and waiting for me to leave. lol. almost spiteful? please let me know what would cause these kind of behavior in women. thanks again 🙂

[thebiglimp]

thanks, april.

lastly could i ask you why she’s so avoiding of me now?

on day 29 and 3 days later when i had to visit the bar again, she was just trying to stay away from me as best as she can.
i still can’t understand this turn of attitude since on day 27, after the second reject on the date, we ended the texting on a positive note, as it was actually the first time i got to say some funny stuff, and we exchanged the longest texts yet.
then come 29th, she acts as if i am some creep, even though as i review my actions so far, i haven’t really been that offensive. desperate, yes, but never offending, i hope.

thanks again for your input.

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