[Thomas44]

I sent something yesterday to her house. It will take a few days. So that’s a good idea. But she still should be responding because I haven’t done anything wrong. It’s confusing. She’s been distant these past two weeks it seems like.

[Thomas44]

I sent this text to her last night “I know you’ve been stressed lately Ris, but everything will work out, I know it will. You’re amazing and everything will fall into place.” But still she hasn’t responded. And maybe you’re right but, I can’t text her again, can I? Because she obviously has seen my texts already. So should i just wait.

[Thomas44]

So I said to her “I want to see you and it doesn’t seem like you want anything to do with me. i don’t want you to say anything but I would just like to know why you and I feel so different and like we’re on different pages recently”. And she said “I’m sorry J, I love you.. I really do. I feel like my life is on the spin around right now, I don’t know what career path to take, I’m not feeling confident about anything. It’s just hard for me to give you my focus.” And I said “everything will work out, you’ll figure out what you want to do an everything will turn around in a great way. I Know it will. Be patient. You’re a beautiful, smart, talented person who I know will succeed. And I want to be there for you to lend support but you can turn me away. I wanna be the person you can talk to and who is there for you”. And then she just said “Ok and I don’t want to talk about it”. So I guess it was good that she said that. But it does upset me that she doesn’t like talking about these problems with me. So what should
I do now?

[Thomas44]

Ok. I will try and make things better and show her I care more. But I do show her a lot but she just seems like she’s contemplating it.

[Thomas44]

I’ve done the flowers thing, I thought maybe we can spend this time together because we have a blizzard coming today, but she didn’t seem into it. So you think I should ask her on a date maybe later jn the week? Should I say something like “idk what your issue with me is lately idk what it is i did to you but I hope it stops and we can go back to loving each other like I know we do” think that’s good? Or just stick with the thing you said

[Thomas44]

So recently , my girlfiend has been acting distant and saying relAltionships change overtime and we don’t have to be texting all day or whatever. So I gave her the space she wanted, she was working all day and she ends up texting me saying “my day was great thanks for asking” being sarcastic. This past week, I’ve been texting her first and if I don’t even text her once she wouldn’t respond the whole day. And before she said “maybe I just don’t know what I want from you”. And before that she said “I guess I just don’t trust you”. So what do you make out if those last two quotes she said?

[Thomas44]

[quote=”trainermc”]How long have you two been together? If it’s a new relationship (under 3 months) then don’t worry about it. She may want to spend time with her friends and maybe she acts different when she is with them and drinking and she doesnt want you to judge her. Not saying she is doing anything shady though. If its a long relationship 4 months or more than that is pretty shady in my opinion to not want you there for her birthday. I would take that as a warning sign things are not going well and I would act accordingly,[/quote]

It’s been 3 years . She said she wasn’t celebrating her birthday. Just the end of the semester. It was such bs but she would never admit that she just didn’t want me there.

[Thomas44]

I mean she said she doesn’t hangout with him. She was just going out with we group of friends. She said from the begginning that she immediately saw him as a friend and thought he was cool to talk too but obv she’s gonna tell me that. He obviously flirted with her and she obviously liked him a little bit to go on a date with him. So I don’t think they hangout at at but I do think they text every now and then.

[Thomas44]

Were together, and as I mentioned for three years. I don’t think I should have to win we over. Like were together and there shouldn’t be another guy involved at all. I wish she would just stop bein friends with him bc it’s innappropriate. He’s obv flirted with her and she obviously liked him a little to go on a date with him. I’m trying to show her she doesn’t needs to get attention from someone else. Which is what she is doing. She has pictures of him posing from her birthday night. It hurts.

[Thomas44]

We’ve been together for three years so that’s why it’s weird. I know it was because that kid was there
. She said it would of wen uncomfortable for both of us but she also said when she was talking with him and went on that date when we broke up it wasn’t anything like that an she didn’t like him like that. Which is contradicting herself because if she didn’t like him like that then why would it would be awkward? Idk if it’s just me but I think something aeems off don’t you? Because who wouldn’t want their boyfriend there on her
Birthday and plus she posted a birthday Selfie on her Instagram
And she tells me her friends somehow found out it was her birthday. It’s messed up
And idk what to do. I wanna prove my point even though she ended the convo weeks go and didn’t want me to bring It up anymore because I was literally making shit up
In my head.

[Thomas44]

I agree we deff have different ways of communication. But what she does is if she doesn’t agree and we have a simple disagreement, she’ll blow up and get angry at me instead us talking and explaining each other’s opinions. She usually always brings up the past and my mistakes. Idk why she just always. Stuff thst happened years ago

[Thomas44]

She said she wasn’t celebrating her birthday but that’s such bs. We talked about all of this so idk how to go about it now. Bc she said her friends just somehow found out it was her birthday. Which is bs. I just don’t know what to do. She needs to realize it wasn’t right. Just even when I explained it to her she didn’t find it wrong.

[Thomas44]

Why wouldn’t she wanna spend her birthday with me? It’s basically like anew didn’t want me there. So you tbink I should just go back to doing nice things like that? Idk doesn’t it seem sketchy about the whole thing
? Like do you think something happened between them? Or do you think she just didn’t wanna spend the night with me? Because we’ve been dating for three years and I don’t think it should be like this.

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