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Well, the guy actually died, and I ended up seeing her at the memorial ceremony. We talked almost exclusively to each other, and were some of the last people there. I should have tried to setup a get together at the end, but didn’t feel comfortable doing so at a funeral, and just when we said good bye that I’d like to see her at a less somber occasion. My one colleague said she wouldn’t spend that much time with me if she wasn’t interested, so then I took a long shot called her up in later to setup a date, but she never got back to me.

In any event, I pretty much wrote her off after that, got rid of her number, etc., because I assumed she wasn’t into me, and really wanted not to think about it anymore. Quite honestly, I was done. Just last week we were going to be going to the same business event and she texted to me to check if I were going . . . at the last minute I couldn’t make the event and texted her, she said it was a shame and she would have like to have seen me. . . Anyway, this Sunday she texts me in the morning with “Good Morning!” and shares a link of an interesting article she thought I’d like, and then says “Have a great Sunday!” Does she want me to respond? For me to chase to stroke her ego- at least subconsiously? That’s what I’m assuming – correct? My plan is not to respond unless she reaches out again. Sound right??

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Well, after I texted her that I couldn’t make the weekend prior, she did put her visit off 2 weeks ago, and texted me that she tried to arrange to come up to see the sick friend last weekend but couldn’t(she didn’t realize he was in the hospital) and just texted me today that she’s going to try to arrange to come up this weekend to see him in the hospital, and she’d like to meet me for “coffee or a cocktail to catch up.” Not sure, should I just let her try to arrange something, and then plan around her scheduled meeting time or say, well “come in the later afternoon and let’s catch up for cocktails afterward”. Coffee would definitely put me in the dreaded “Friend Zone”(if I’m not already there) and a cocktail would provide the proper environment to see her full intentions/openess, but at the same time I’m sort of uncomfortable on forcing the timing(he’s really sick . . .) so I’m not sure if he’s even well in the late afternoon so don’t want to come across as pushy . . . ideally though I should say, “let’s plan on cocktails around 5pm if that works per his condition . . . or something like that . . .” Or maybe I should say, “why don’t you just visit him this weekend so you focus, and let’s meet up during the week or another time” . . . or that “I’d prefer to see you without all the gloom . . .” I really don’t want to invest time to become her “Friend”

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Well I asked her to meetup for drinks, she never responded, then the day after the day I asked her out, she texted me that she was sorry but was waiting to get confirmation on plans with family(presumably for Thursday) and then forgot to text me back that she couldn’t make it. I don’t think she forgot, or if she is, it means she isn’t that interested. In any event she suggested we meetup one of the next 2 weekends a she plans to visit to a sick friend in my area(she’s about an hour from my location- So u know I suggested a place for drinks halfway between us). Not sure if I really should meet up with her as it may be a lost cause . . . Thinking if I do say, suggest not this week but the following and she reacts(I’ll tell if she is willing push off her visit). . . I can set the terms . . . Saturday, late afternoon, so that it’s clear I’m asking for a date(maybe museum followed by drinks? or a visit to winery/wineries . . .)

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After exchanging another text kidding about work, and getting a 2 paragraph detailed reply after a day or so, I suggested we “catch up” over drinks the following this coming Thursday – no reply yet. Figure she’s not going to reply. I just don’t understand, why she contacts me after a month and a half, suggests she wants to get together soon, and then not respond? I guess she was feeling lonely that weekend she texted me and doesn’t yet have a boyfriend to comfort her so . . . . Not sure if Thursday drinks was too aggressive. . . though she could suggest an alternative, possibly less charged day/time? Anyway, I think it’s best to just write her off as this delay/ non-reply probably shows she probably doesn’t have have much interest – yes?

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In April had a a good lunch and towards the end I expressed I’d like to see her socially in the next several weekends. the following Saturday I texted her about planning to meetup in the next several weeks and she didn’t respond for about a week. When she’s responded she apologized and said she had been really busy that weekend helping family member move and only just catching up with things, but didn’t respond to my query about meeting up. I figured it was an indirect way of saying no thanks. I texted her back but didn’t try to plan another meetup, and haven’t been in touch with her for 2 months. Couple weeks ago I catch her viewing my social media page and I view her back 6 six days later. Yesterday she texts me how my sum,dr is going, I send a brief reply, and she responds to a pick I send her of an event I was at, says her summer has been busy with family stuff, and says “We should get together soon because I miss our comversations”(we talked a lot while we were at work on business trips). Does this mean she might like me?

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