[Furniture21]

Thank you, I know your right, everything you say. I needed to hear it from someone else! x

[Furniture21]

Just one more thing 😀 generally do guys not bother staying friends? I ask this because if he does instigate staying in touch would it be right to assume he is still interested? (Not just hope he is!) There has never been any hint of ‘friends with benefits’ I wouldn’t entertain that, and I know he would never manipulate the situation into that as he’s just not like that. Thank you, again! 😆

[Furniture21]

Ok thank you. It’s going to be hard but I will follow your advice. Any advice on how I can park it in my own mind? I keep hanging onto hope which makes me feel pathetic, it’s so not like me. I need to take control don’t I and say it’s over for good to myself because I’m making that decision to not contact him. I’ve turned down other guys numbers because I think if I dated someone else it would mean it’s truely over with him, which is just crazy because he probably wouldn’t do the same. I just wish he wouldn’t give such mixed signals and continue to confuse me, I could cope if we were really just to remain friends. I sound nuts! I’ve read this back, feelings are such hard things to understand. Thank you for your good advice. I know you are right.

[Furniture21]

Thanks for your reply. Im waiting for my divorce to be done, its been a messy one and will take at least another 2 months. Should I just try keep things as they are until things settle? Or would it better to stop contact? I have my own place now, so could have a relationship, thats why Im confused he hasn’t tried to start things up again if thats how he feels, but like you say he might just want things to be all settled with me properly. Would he risk leaving me to be on my own for a while to sort things out and maybe lose me, if he cares about me and wants to be with me?

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