[Amoop182]

I guess so. But I feel there could be a chance she might move up here due to financial reasons. But that of course is only speculation. As she has told me she has been having a hard time getting by down there and in ny she made much more an hour. I mean she knows how I feel and I personally would not want to date her long distance. And I unfortunately am stuck up in ny. But even if I wasn’t I wouldn’t be able to just move down there I mean, I know moving down there would not sway her decision. But idk, I am not having a hard time moving on. Like I accept that things between us are done and over. I like hearing from her, we were good friends for a while before we started dating. I was just going through a rough breakup with my ex before her and she got the bad end of it. And my ex got really jealous and upset when she found out me and Kt started dating and became very manipulative. I in hindsight realize I should have just stayed with Kt but my emotions got the worst of me and I messed things up between us. She told me I was the only reason she was still staying in ny. So once we split the last time she felt she had no reason to stay anymore. I’m hoping that if things don’t work with her and her boyfriend now, that maybe she will consider coming back up here, not just for me but for financial reasons. I mean struggling to make a living is no way to live. But I mean that is her choice to make and I have told her how I feel, so she knows. I have not kept on about it, I’m not pressuring her like that. So I feel just being on friendly terms is good for now. I mean she even asked if we can still exchange Christmas gifts. So I just get these mixed signals from her. But I get what you’re saying about having the cake and eating it too. Idk I guess I just hate to think she is going to be the one that got away.

[Amoop182]

I see what you are stating. However isn’t give altimatums not a very good thing to do? I want her to choose me because it’s a choice she makes on her own, not do to pressure. I am going to however limit my contact with her. I haven’t been texting her. If she texts me I will just be polite and respond but I am not talking about emotional stuff with her in anyway. As for the date. Unfortunately we live in seperate states now. She moved back home after we split and that’s when she got together with this other guy, who was apparently a friend of hers for a while from back home. So I’m assuming they are going to work out for a while at least (but that is only speculation).

[Amoop182]

I think that is quite possibly the most insightful advice I have ever gotten: I do want to be with her. And I have made it clear that I want a relationship with her.

So what do I do now? Are you saying just stay out of contact with her? Because she had stated to me she wants to give this guy a chance and I have to at this point respect her decision.

I don’t want to stay in the friend zone at all. She actually hit me up this morning asking me how I am and she hopes well. I know it’s just speculation.

Does it mean anything that she keeps reaching out to me?
And if she does what do I do? I ended up just chatting with her for a while talking about things, non emotional stuff. Just having a laugh.

So what do I do in these situations?

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