No, I don’t think it was harsh at all. I think it was a truth I needed to hear. I am willing to compromise, but I feel I have done a lot of that with this man and it has not been reciprocated. I think that is why I am guarded and bull headed this time around and I have always been an independent woman. Also, our we did not have a clean break up and I was just on the cusp of finally moving on when he decided to get on contact with me again and I think I have those lingering feelings of resentment.
I am currently not with him and I am dating other people. He was the one that came to me and said a lot of pretty words about being with me, but has yet to back them up with action and I think that’s my downfall is I keep telling him what he needs to do to prove it to me and I should just let him take the lead as you said. If he does it, great! If not, I know he was not serious and I have other prospects I can move on with. Not only with them, but work on my own sense of self and as you said, personal growth.
Thank you again for this piece of advice, it helps.
