[FranceLee87]

Thank you for the dialogue, April. I know I’ll have to let this go. It’s been a struggle. I definitely don’t want this to tear us apart.

[FranceLee87]

Thanks again April, I actually lost it to John, but only after we were in a committed relationship (the one I’m in with him now). I made him wait a little less than year into our relationship too. This wasn’t on purpose – I knew John for a long time before we dated again and knew I wanted to lose it to him way before we entered into our current relationship, but we were having a hard time actually doing the deed (it hurt) but even then I meant to make him ‘wait’ a short while since we both knew early on we were in it for the long haul. We continued to date without having sex until about 6 months into our relationship (after meeting our respective families, spending a week long vacation with him, and him saying I love you) Overall, I’m happy with he milestones we reached before I gave him my virginity though.

(sorry if this message repeats, I’m having some technical issues)

[FranceLee87]

Thanks again April, I actually lost it to John, but only after we were in a committed relationship (the one I’m in with him now). I made him wait a little less than year into our relationship too. This wasn’t on purpose – I knew John for a long time before we dated again and knew I wanted to lose it to him way before we entered into our current relationship, but we were having a hard time actually doing the deed (it hurt) but even then I meant to make him ‘wait’ a short while since we both knew early on we were in it for the long haul. We continued to date without having sex until about 6 months into our relationship (after meeting our respective families, spending a week long vacation with him, and him saying I love you) Overall, I’m happy with he milestones we reached before I gave him my virginity though.

[FranceLee87]

Thanks April! I guess I just had a hard time because Kate came right after me and we are very similar – we almost became close friends because of our similar activities. During that time I truly just felt ‘replaced’ by someone who was a better version of me, after I told John I didn’t want to be his friend with benefits anymore, I though it meant he would keep pursuing me, but on a more substantial, exclusive level. Instead, he turned around and dated Kate, and gave her more substantial time. I unfortunately already brought this up with him even before I wrote in. He told me he was being young and stupid and only gave her that substantial time because she ‘put out’ and of course he was also attracted to her. He claims he was still attracted to me/liked me at that point and throughout college, but did not want to pursue me in that way because he knew I wanted to stay a virgin – so instead he chose to just remain my platonic friend because he was looking to ‘sow his wild oats’ and knew he could not cross that line with me. When he felt he was finally ready for a more serious relationship, he knew he wanted to give me another shot to see if I would still have him. That was how our conversation went.

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