Why would this guy be so flirty & show clear signs of interested to the point he’s blushing , grinning and holding eye contact to really making every effort to make conversation about stuff he knows I’m interested in and to be coming out with bad jokes just to make me laugh. All of this has pretty much been going on since he found out from his friend years ago I was interested. But in the last 3/4 months since I returned work after been away a short time, he turned the heat up on it all .
To have not ended his realationship, but to power on with all of this since I’ve had my 2nd child. What’s going on in his head? I was hardly going to be available. ( especially as he would have heard about it ) Hence why I didn’t see a issue with messaging him.
But for me it was all going great guns, until I got his number from a friend and messaged him. I couldn’t see him getting round to asking me for a number fairly soon, and the years it’s carried on for, thought it needed a nudge in the right direction. Plus I didn’t think he would know how I’ve felt cos apart from just going shy , blushing & giving him the odd banter isn’t really enough to make a move. I’ve not really been able to talk to him for pure shyness up until I messaged him then. But after seeing him the 1st time after the messages I totally relaxed & felt comfortable cos he seemed more relaxed so was able to talk to him. So part of me wonders if I said something that turned him off. Part of me feels I may have rushed it with him? I’m going round in circles. Lol
If it was the texting while still in a realationship that’s pushed him away, should I try & drop it in about my current situation? Or carry on talking see where it goes? Part of me feels like just having a serious chat to him about the whole thing & finding out his thoughts ( it may not be the thing to do, especially how he’s been lately) so we can for once and for all just move on one way or another. I don’t wanna ever go through this again if I have to move on without him so I want some clear answers naw. It’s naw or never for him.
