[alexandr]

i then asked how her exams went cause she was telling me about it last time. and she responded that she is struggling to finish it and will be late for class today. She responded within half an hour. I actually fell asleep and woke up two hrs later and just told her good luck and i hope you get things done. Was planning on texting later on that night to see how it went but i dont think i will . Maybe will do that tomorrow or should i really just lay off.

[alexandr]

i didn’t respond that day but responded the following morning should I have left it for longer?

[alexandr]

should i respond today?

[alexandr]

hi April, I have read everything and I understand I have to be in a better place it is just incredibly difficult , this girl is like no other we were so comfortable with each other in every way possible. We continue to call each other by our nicknames till even now, I cant even remember a time where I called her by her real name as she did mine. Its just very hard some days are good some are bad. I am still not giving up just wondering about a certain situation thats happening , we were texting before quite often over the last week and it was good back and forth then one day she texted and i responded and went back and forth with mine being the last and she hasnt responded for 4 days . She actually just responded while i was typing this right now !(what are the odds).

My question is that should I respond to her or wait a few days. My plan was I would leave it for a week then send her a message regardless if she contacted me or not I really need to get her in person within a month is my goal.

I know it may seem like a quick fix is what im looking for but its not i just want to do things right to help my chances to getting a meetup. As much as its hard i understand it will take time and I am trying to be patient and I know i will be if thats what i have to do.

[alexandr]

So what to do, please youre like my only hope, there has to be something I can try, you said to keep talking to her so I have been do I still continue?

[alexandr]

So she keeps sending me messages and there has been more of a conversation going back and forth. She tells me about school, about a job interview she is going for, a job offer she got. One night we spoke over a span of a few hours and it was late at night maybe from 10 – 2am. Even random things like she found out that they serve this drink that I love close to her house now, and she can have it whenever she wants and actually had one the day before and also said she misses the stuff toy she gave me again. But whenever I end the conversation with good luck with your work, or I gotta go but it was nice talking to you have a good night, or talk to you soon, she doesn’t acknowledge or even respond. She will just message me the next day casually about something random like the examples above about school and work. She started posting things back on snap chat but I don’t view any of her stories.

What does this all mean, is my continuing to talk to her working? Is it a sign there might be trouble with her current relationship?

[alexandr]

OK, I understand but can I ask you if I feel like I am ready to meet, how do I know if it’s the right time to ask her out? As well as is there a time frame if I don’t do it soon do I risk her falling more for this guy if she’s spending more time with him?

[alexandr]

OK I did not view it. ☺
She continues to ask for advice on her project. She texted me around 7pm I responded an hour later but she didn’t respond till midnight. I waited about 30 min and responded and she responded then I responded again but ended it by just saying I hope everything works out and it would be nice to see the finished project and have a good night. Something along those lines anyway lol.
She responded again but I didn’t open I went to sleep. I only responded the following morning around 11.

Should I continue to engage in conversation with her at this time? Did I do the right thing? And can I do or say anything to move things along or do I just have to be patient? So many questions in my head lol

[alexandr]

Well going out with friends are tough, they kinda are all married or in relationships that they won’t come out. I have a lot of work to keep me busy anyways, plus gym but it just gets boring sometimes not having someone to just call up and get a late night snack or watch a movie. I really can’t fit volunteer and stuff like that in my schedule at all right now with all my final assignments lol.

I actually asked her out twice a while ago but she said no. Then I stopped talking to her for a month and now have started talking a little as I’ve told you. Thanks for all your help, I hope I can still seek advice if things change as to what to do.
Something maybe silly to ask is she posted something on snap chat recently, is it too needy if I view it or should I not view it? Sorry for dumb question lol.

[alexandr]

I am still taking care of myself, back at the gym like how I was when I first met her. Girls don’t come by easy tho they won’t give me a chance. It’s hard to let go of a girl who did and that I found to be everything I wanted. At this point I don’t even want to meet her. Mentally I feel fine and in a good space and I realized how I have to be if we get back together. Physically I’m not happy, maybe a few months when I start tanning and cutting, I’ll be more confident. Plus still have moments of crying so some days my eyes are looking tired and puffy I can’t let her see that.
I just can’t tell if she is starting to miss me/interested or she is just being polite when we text?

[alexandr]

I sent her a post about the character of the stuffed toy she gave me today. And she responded a few hours later with a post that she found of the same character and I made a joke about it and she laughed (lol).
She also showed me more pictures of her project and asked for advice again and she took it too and showed me the result. I left at that high point of the condo and said great job looks awesome! She said thanks with a smile face and I didn’t respond. I will text her in a few days if I don’t hear from her. It seems that posting things we find about this character is becoming a thing. So should I continue the sharing of posts I find since she responds well to it? And It involves the toy she gave me and the one she said she misses.

[alexandr]

thank you, she is starting to send me responses with questions related to her work and my opinion on it, which i like because considering her new person is in the same field and she could easily ask him.

I dont think i am like most 33 yr old either. i look like im in my mid 20’s for one and nobody believes me when i tell them im 33. We are both in college still so we have that in common and im still in the fun having stage i am definetly not looking to settle down but i understand that she has to see whats out there. So i will continue to talk to her. I know if i can get her to meet me i can be very convincing lol. just need to get to that point just not sure how to get there. any help on that would be great!

I had an idea of asking her to help me look at some floor plans for a condo im looking at and get her opinion, seeing as she studies that field. thought it could be a good icebreaker to meet up and chat about. is that a bad idea?

[alexandr]

I am 33yrs old and she is 22. We were together for 11months and she left me before for someone who she believed she had a great connection with so I told her to go then if that makes u happy. She was back to me in a month. Then we were back together for about 6 months till recently. She said because I’m not the same background as her. But I believe it’s because she believes we can’t have the passion we had when we first met. I regret so much now for not pushing more. I made a huge mistake I just need to talk to her and explain.

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