I was dumped 2 months ago, over a text message. I had a great 2 year relationship with someone, only to have it all end over text. I was hurt, broken and angry. But because I wanted a civil breakup, one where we could both walk away feeling good about our two years together, I asked if we could meet in person to say goodbye. He refused and I have spent the last 2 months accepting that I won’t get that proper goodbye. Meanwhile, my ex has been a jerk to me over social media (posting pics with girls I know, sending me snaps of parties, drunk texting me, the usual). Now, he texts me saying he finally wants to meet to properly end things, and I don’t know how to respond.
With him being so immature these 2 months, it has made me realize how willing he is to put his own feelings above mine. He only wants to meet now that he’s ready and its convenient for him. If he wanted to meet for me or for the benefit of the relationship, he should have asked 2 months ago. Right now, I don’t need a proper goodbye. I accepted a long time ago I wasn’t going to get one. I was hurt, but got over it. I don’t know if I’m over my ex. I still cry sometimes and I miss the relationship. That being said, I’m not in a place where I would want to get back together.
Should I meet with my ex? Should I risk getting my feelings hurt again, or having my feelings for him return? Meeting him now would still mean I am doing things on his terms and giving him another second chance. However, I don’t want to not meet him and regret never having the civil and proper break up I always wanted. What should I do?
