Hey April,
Thanks so much for the reply. This is so cool and helpful. I think I may tell him, its just our relationship has been a bit rocky because we have trust issues. Your right, i want to avoid the confrontation. I don’t want our trust to feel weaker again, even though apart of loyalty is honesty. Am I right? Otherwise if I don’t tell him, I think I will just change gyms and start training else where. The last thing I want is my boyfriend to look is stupid.
I also have one more question that just arose. My family friends from overseas are coming to stay with us at my house. When I was 15 I lived overseas, and me and one of the boys became romantic. Just a few times. That was it, I stayed for a few months longer and left. I haven’t seen or spoken to him since then! Now my mum is opening up the house for the boys to live until they find their feet. I feel like if I don’t tell my boyfriend I am keeping a secret again, but I also don’t want to tell him because I feel it will cause him unnecessary stress and distrust. I could just avoid the boys, but I think that would be really bad because they took me in for 6 months. Im sure they will want lifts, and to be shown around. I am happy to take them, and also take my boyfriend with me, but if he knew, would he hate me? Can you see an underlying problem? I feel as though I’m asking this question for almost the exact same reason, but I just can’t put my finger on what the problem is here. I think I’m finding it hard to find where the line is for what my boyfriend has the right to know. My boyfriend is also 18 years older. I think maybe one of the biggest problems is the fact that I don’t want us to loose trust because of things I did when I didn’t even know him, or for talking to the manager when I never thought I would see him again. Because now everything is arising in my face. yay. :I
Thanks again for being so helpful. <3
