[Victor Russo]

This isn’t just about money it’s about partnership. Eighteen thousand dollars is a symptom; the real issue is that he made a life-changing decision knowing it would betray your trust. When someone hides something because they “knew you’d disagree,” they’re admitting they chose impulse over respect.

You can rebuild trust, but only if he fully owns what he did no excuses, no “you’re overreacting.” That means repaying what was taken, being transparent with finances, and proving through consistent action that he values you as an equal. If he minimizes or deflects, that’s your answer. Love can survive mistakes, but it can’t survive denial.

[Victor Russo]

Healing gets harder when the past keeps showing up in the same room. What you’re feeling is normal familiarity always tugs at old emotions. But every time you see them and choose not to reach back, you’re actually moving on, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. Distance isn’t always about miles it’s about boundaries. Be polite, not available. Let time and space do what love couldn’t make peace where passion once lived.

[Victor Russo]

You already know the answer you just want to hear it from him. When someone wants you in their life fully, they don’t keep you in the gray. “Just talking” after three months of intimacy is a choice one that protects his freedom, not your feelings. You don’t need to demand a label, but you do deserve clarity. Ask him calmly, “What are we doing here?” If that question scares him off, then you’ve saved yourself from waiting on someone who was never going to choose you anyway.

[Victor Russo]

What you’re feeling is real but that doesn’t automatically make it stable. After years of routine and responsibility, it’s easy to mistake emotional chemistry and nostalgia for something fated. What you two share sounds electric, but real love needs time, not intensity. The question isn’t “Is it real?” it’s “Can it last once the rush settles?” Keep enjoying the connection, but slow the pace. Let consistency, not adrenaline, show you who he really is when life not fantasy starts showing up again.

[Victor Russo]

What you’re describing isn’t love it’s emotional inconsistency that keeps you trapped in hope. People who vanish like that often do it to avoid accountability, not because they care less, but because they lack the maturity to handle depth. You keep letting him back because you’re chasing the version of him that shows up just enough to keep you hooked. The only way to break the cycle is to stop rewarding the disappearances with forgiveness. Let his silence be the answer and protect your peace like it’s something sacred.

[Victor Russo]

It’s good that you see both sides love and realism. Financial history doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker, but it does require clear structure. Keep finances separate until their credit improves: separate accounts, separate loans, and clear agreements on shared expenses. Encourage their progress but don’t take on their debt or co-sign anything yet. Supporting someone doesn’t mean sinking with them it means helping them rise while you protect your own foundation.

[Victor Russo]

This is a really hard situation. You both have dreams and responsibilities, and it’s tough when they pull you in different directions. The best thing you can do is talk openly and honestly about what matters most to each of you.

Maybe you can find a middle option like trying the move for a few months or working remotely. What’s most important is making the choice together, so neither of you feels alone or unheard.

[Victor Russo]

That’s a tough spot, man. It’s completely fair to want privacy in your relationship trust depends on it. You can say something like, “I’m not asking you to hide your life, but some things between us should stay just between us.”

Make it clear this isn’t about control, it’s about respect. She can still lean on her friends, but personal moments your insecurities, sex life, private talks deserve protection. If she values the relationship, she’ll understand that your trust needs boundaries, not exposure.

[Victor Russo]

That’s really tough, man. It’s hard to feel fully seen when you’re constantly compared to someone else. You’re not her ex and you shouldn’t have to compete with a memory.

You can gently tell her, “I know your past mattered, but I want us to build something new not live in what used to be.”

If she’s still holding on emotionally, you can love her, but she also has to want to let go. Healing can’t happen if she keeps looking backward.

[Victor Russo]

It’s normal to want respect and not feel ignored. If her flirting hurts you and she laughs it off, that’s not fair.

Tell her calmly that it’s not about jealousy it just makes you feel uncomfortable. Say something like, “I love that you’re friendly, but when it feels flirty, I feel left out.”

If she cares, she’ll understand and try to make you feel secure. Being playful is fine but so is having respect for your partner.

[Victor Russo]

There’s no perfect timeline for love it’s more about the connection than the calendar. If you feel it, that’s real, but saying “I love you” too soon can sometimes overwhelm the other person if they’re not there yet.

Try noticing how emotionally open they are do they share their feelings, talk about the future, make you feel safe and seen? If yes, it might be the right time. If not, maybe let things grow a little more.

Love shouldn’t be rushed, but it shouldn’t be hidden either say it when it feels honest, not just when you hope to hear it back.

[Victor Russo]

I’ve been in that exact place holding on to what something used to feel like instead of what it is now. It’s such a quiet kind of heartbreak.

When the excitement fades and effort disappears, it usually means one person has stopped showing up the same way. You can’t keep a connection alive by yourself.

Be honest with yourself: are you staying because it’s still good, or because you miss how it once was? Sometimes letting go isn’t giving up it’s just accepting that the story changed.

[Victor Russo]

Don’t take it too hard a lot of women get really sensitive right after they finish. It’s usually not about you.

Talk to her when you’re both relaxed, not in bed. Just say something like, “I’ve noticed you get tired right after I just want to check if you’re okay and if there’s anything I can do better.”

Keep it kind and open. After sex, focus on holding her or just being close. That comfort can make her feel safe enough to share what’s really going on.

[Victor Russo]

Hi Grace, what I think If a guy wants to move forward, you won’t have to push him. He’ll make it happen. I used to say “why change a good thing” when I wasn’t ready for more. You’re not being impatient; you just know what you want. Be clear about your goals and see if his actions match otherwise, you might just be waiting for someone who’s staying still.

[Victor Russo]

Mia, I’ll be straight with you if a man wants to talk to you, he’ll find a way. I used to say the same thing when I wasn’t that into someone. “Not into texting” is guy code for “keeping my options open.”

You’re not expecting too much. You’re just dating a man who expects less.

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