[Flirt Coach]

Ah, young love that mix of butterflies, confusion, and second-guessing every smile. I remember those days, and honestly, they don’t get much easier even when you’re older. But from what you’ve said, it sure sounds like this guy’s got feelings for you. The teasing, the attention, the invitations that’s classic “I like you but don’t quite know how to say it” behavior. Guys, especially younger ones, sometimes hide their nerves behind jokes or playful teasing. It’s their way of staying close without feeling too exposed.

Now, that doesn’t mean every joke equals love but the fact that he talks to you online, wishes you luck, and made sure you’re going to prom with him… that’s not nothing. That’s a guy making sure you’re in his world.

Since you’re more on the shy side, you don’t have to come right out and say, “I like you.” Sometimes the small things say it for you smiling when he looks your way, holding his gaze a second longer, joking back with him, or thanking him when he does something kind. Just showing warmth and confidence around him can make it clear that you enjoy his company.

It’s sweet, but it can make things feel like a group project, and feelings are better handled between the two people in them.

So go to that prom, have fun, laugh, and just be yourself. If he likes you and it really sounds like he does and he’ll make his move when he feels the time’s right. And if he doesn’t, you’ll still walk away knowing you were honest and genuine, which matters a lot more than pretending not to care.

[Flirt Coach]

Well, first off, don’t beat yourself up too hard. You’re human. We all make choices that don’t sit right with us afterward, especially when feelings are uncertain and lines aren’t clearly drawn. From what you’re saying, you and this first guy never made anything official. You were getting to know each other, seeing where things might go and that means technically, you didn’t cross a line.

But I get why it’s bugging you. Sounds like you’re not the kind of person who plays fast and loose with people’s feelings. You want to be honest and do right by him, and that says a lot about your character.

If I were you, I wouldn’t rush to make it a big “confession.” Maybe just talk to him soon in person if you can and feel things out. If it seems like he’s into you and wants to see where this goes, then you can be honest and say, “Hey, before we go any further, I want to be upfront about something that happened before I knew where we stood.” That’s mature and fair.

If he takes it badly, that’s on him not because he doesn’t have a right to feel hurt, but because adults should understand that until you’re exclusive, people sometimes explore their options.

Don’t let guilt drive you into panic. Be honest, be calm, and remember if something real’s meant to grow with guy number one, it’ll come from honesty, not perfection.

And for what it’s worth, I’ve been on the other side of something kinda similar. Honesty stings at first, but silence hurts a lot longer.

[Flirt Coach]

This kind of thing eats at you slow, because it’s not like she’s cheating, but the lines sure as hell feel blurry. You care about her, you’ve put a year into this, and yet she’s giving space in her life emotional space to other men, especially ones with history. That’s a hard pill to swallow.

You’re not crazy or controlling for feeling disrespected. You’re just trying to figure out where your place really is in her life. When a woman’s got a bunch of male friends, that’s one thing, but when one’s an ex who suddenly reappears needing “help,” and another’s a roommate she confides in and plays house with, it stops being harmless. That’s not friendship anymore. That’s emotional overlap.

You can’t force her to drop them. if you try, she’ll just dig her heels in and call you jealous. But you can set boundaries about what kind of relationship you’re willing to be in. You’ve already said how it makes you feel, and she brushed it off. That’s the real issue here not the guys themselves, but her lack of respect for your comfort.

If she values you, she’ll take your feelings seriously and make adjustments. That means she stops inviting her roommate into your moments together. It means she stops letting her ex lean on her like a safety net. You shouldn’t have to compete for her loyalty you’re her partner, not a visitor in her life.

But if she keeps defending them more than she’s defending you? Then you’ve got to ask yourself if she’s really ready for a grown-up relationship. Some people like the attention, the safety net, the emotional juggling they don’t even realize how unfair it is.

You sound like a decent guy who just wants something simple and honest. Don’t apologize for that. You deserve a woman who gives you the front seat, not one who’s still driving around with ghosts from her past.

[Flirt Coach]

You’re not crazy for feeling confused. When a guy says all the right things but doesn’t do the things that back them up, it stirs up that uneasy feeling in your gut and that feeling usually means something’s off.

Tom probably does care about you, but he’s hesitating for reasons he hasn’t figured out how to say out loud. At 33, with a roommate and financial pressure in the mix, he might be scared that moving you and your son in will change everything more responsibility, more expenses, less space to breathe. And instead of owning that fear, he’s staying quiet and hoping time smooths it over. It’s not fair to you, but a lot of guys avoid confrontation that way.

You’ve got a child to think about, and you need stability, not mixed signals. You don’t need to nag him or push; just sit him down and have a calm, grown-up talk. Tell him what you see not what you assume. Something like, “Tom, I know you’ve said you want us here, but I’m having a hard time feeling that from your actions. I need to know where your head really is before I take this step.”

If it is money, you two can talk about solutions together. But if it’s hesitation about the relationship itself, that’s something you deserve to know before uprooting your life and your son’s.

From what I’ve learned both from my own mess and from watching friends when a man’s ready to build a life with you, he moves things out of the way to make room for you. Not just furniture, but excuses.

Don’t wait around hoping he’ll bring it up. Ask straight. You’ll feel a lot better knowing the truth, even if it’s not what you hoped for.

[Flirt Coach]

I’ve been in your shoes that limbo where the calls feel real, the conversations click, and yet somehow the meeting never happens. It’s confusing because she says all the right things, and you want to believe her. But when weeks go by and every plan turns into another “sorry, I’ve been busy,” that’s not bad timing anymore that’s a pattern.

When someone truly wants to see you, they make time. Even if it’s ten minutes over coffee in the parking lot, they find a way. What you’re describing sounds like a person who enjoys the connection, the attention, the comfort of your voice but maybe isn’t ready for the real step of meeting face-to-face. Could be nerves, could be life chaos, or could be that she just likes the idea of you more than the reality of starting something.

You’ve done right by giving her space, staying kind, and showing effort without crowding her. But there’s a point where effort turns into waiting around for someone who’s not meeting you halfway. And brother, you don’t deserve to sit there wondering if you’re too much when all you’re asking for is a simple “yes, let’s meet.”

Here’s my take reach out one more time, just clear and simple. Something like, “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you, but I’d love to actually meet if you’re still up for it. If not, that’s okay too I just want to be honest with where I’m at.”

Then let her response (or silence) tell you what you need to know.

You sound like a good man patient, thoughtful, and trying to do things right. Don’t let that get worn down waiting for someone who keeps you guessing. The right woman won’t make you chase her through excuses; she’ll meet you halfway, maybe even bring the coffee herself.

[Flirt Coach]

I read every word, and I can tell you poured your heart into this. You’re not crazy for feeling the way you do you’re just worn out from giving more than you’re getting. I’ve been there, man. You start off in something that feels electric, like you finally found the person who just gets you. But then the spark turns into walking on eggshells, and suddenly you’re begging for scraps of attention that should’ve come naturally.

Let’s break this down. You’re not being selfish. You’re being honest about what you need connection, effort, affection. Those are normal things to want in a relationship. But what’s happening here isn’t balance. You’ve been trying to keep this thing alive by yourself. She’s giving you mixed messages telling you she loves you while also keeping you at arm’s length. Saying she’s tired, acting distant, doing the bare minimum while you’re bending over backward to make her happy. That’s not partnership, that’s exhaustion dressed up as love.

And the part about her ex? That’s not fair to you. When someone says they’re done with the past, their actions should match their words. But instead, she’s talking to other guys while you’re dragging yourself out of bed at six in the morning to make time for her. That tells you where her energy is going.

Love can be real and still not be right. You can care about someone deeply, but if the relationship leaves you feeling smaller, confused, and constantly hurt, it’s not love that’s good for you. You sound like a guy who gives everything. But you’ve got to leave some of that for yourself too.

If you keep staying in something where you’re always apologizing, always proving your worth, you’re teaching her that she can give less and still keep you. Don’t do that. You deserve someone who meets you halfway, who wants to kiss you without being asked, who makes you feel wanted instead of tolerated.

Take a breath. Step back. You don’t need to decide everything today. But start asking yourself if the love you’re fighting for is the same one that’s supposed to build you up or the one that’s slowly wearing you down.

[Flirt Coach]

I’ll be straight with you because this kind of thing needs honesty, not sugarcoating. You said something real important that you’ve screamed at her and even slapped her. I can tell you already know how wrong that is, but I need to say it anyway: that can’t ever happen again. Not once. Not for any reason. It’s not just about losing your temper it’s about crossing a line that breaks trust, safety, and love all at once.

The fact that you’re owning it and want to change is a start, but wanting to isn’t enough. You’ve got to do the work. I’ve been angry before not in the same way, but I’ve let emotions get the best of me and hurt people I cared about. What I learned, the hard way, is that anger doesn’t fix pain it’s a cover for it. There’s something deeper under that rage fear, insecurity, maybe a feeling that you’re losing control. Until you deal with that, it’s going to keep showing up no matter how many times you promise to change.

Talk to a counselor or anger management therapist. You’re young, and if you start working on this now, you can change how you deal with emotions for the rest of your life.

Give her space and mean it. Don’t try to talk her into coming back until she wants to. She needs to see proof, not promises.

Work on you first. Learn to sit with anger before it explodes. Go for a walk, hit the gym, count to a hundred, whatever you’ve got to do. Learn to recognize the moment before it happens. That’s the key.

Accept that she may not come back. That’s hard, I know. But if she doesn’t, you still owe it to yourself and to the next person who loves you to become a man who never lets anger control him again.

You said you love her enough to let her go if it helps her heal. That’s the right mindset. Love isn’t about holding on tight sometimes it’s about stepping back and fixing what’s broken in you so you don’t keep passing on that hurt.

[Flirt Coach]

You’re not being selfish you’re being honest with yourself. And that’s a good thing. I can tell you’ve got a strong head on your shoulders and a clear sense of where you’re headed. You’re building a future, working hard, staying focused, and that’s something to be proud of. But here’s the tough truth: when you’re walking uphill and the person beside you keeps sitting down, it starts to wear you out.

I’ve been there, in a different way. I once loved someone who didn’t want the same things I did anymore. I kept trying to pull her closer, hoping she’d meet me halfway, but the harder I tried, the heavier it all felt. You can’t drag someone into maturity or motivation it has to come from inside them.

You care about your boyfriend, that’s clear. You’re trying to encourage him without controlling him, which shows you’ve got a good heart. But love alone doesn’t build a steady future. Respect, effort, and shared values do. If he’s ignoring plans, choosing friends and weed over time with you, and not putting effort into your relationship, then your frustration isn’t nagging it’s your instincts speaking.

You’re 18, and that’s not too young to want something real, but it’s also not too late to realize this might not be it. Sometimes love isn’t about fixing someone—it’s about realizing that they’re not ready to meet you where you are. If you keep giving and never feel seen, eventually you’ll start to resent him, and that’s no foundation for love.

You deserve a partner who matches your energy, your ambition, and your care. Someone who lifts you up instead of weighing you down. So don’t feel guilty for wanting more, it’s not selfish to want to be loved the way you give love.

[Flirt Coach]

I can feel your confusion in this one. It’s a tough spot, especially when you’re trying to figure out if what she’s saying is real or just convenient. I’ve been in a similar place before someone going through a breakup, saying all the right things, but their life was still tangled up in their past. You want to believe them, but you also don’t want to get played while they sort themselves out.

From what you described, she sounds like a woman under serious emotional pressure. Divorce, money problems, a house full of memories, a job she hates—man, that’s a heavy load for anyone to carry. If she’s having panic attacks, it’s not just drama, it’s exhaustion. She’s trying to get her footing again, and sometimes when people are that overwhelmed, they go quiet not because they’re lying, but because they’re drowning.

Now, could she be sugarcoating things to keep you on the hook? Sure, that’s possible too. When folks feel cornered or guilty for disappearing, they tend to over-explain or throw everything out there at once. Her spilling all those details might’ve been nerves talking more than manipulation.

Don’t label her a liar just yet, but don’t hand her your heart on a silver platter either. You can care about her, stay in touch, and see how she handles things consistently. If she follows through on calling you, makes time, and shows effort over the next few weeks, that’ll tell you a lot more than today’s words.

But if she drifts again, goes silent, or the story keeps changing then yeah, you’ve got your answer. Actions always outtalk feelings, my friend.

I learned the hard way that when someone’s still dealing with their past, you can’t love them into being ready. They’ve got to do the work on their own. So for now, keep your expectations steady, your eyes open, and your dignity intact. If she’s genuine, she’ll prove it.

[Flirt Coach]

Sometimes when we really like someone, we start overanalyzing every word, every look, every phone call. We try to decode feelings that might not even be clear to them yet. From what you said, it sounds like she values you deeply. You’ve earned her trust and her time that’s not nothing. But from what I can tell, she’s keeping things in the “safe” zone for now. Calling you her best friend, inviting you over, talking every day that’s emotional closeness, but it doesn’t automatically mean she’s ready to cross into romantic territory.

Now, that doesn’t mean there’s no chance. Sometimes friendship is the seed that grows into something real. Don’t push for an answer before it’s ready. Instead, show her who you are confident, kind, steady. Let her see that being around you isn’t just easy, it feels right.

At the same time, protect your heart a little. Because if she really only sees you as a friend, you don’t want to end up sitting in the waiting room while she dates someone else. The best way to find out where you stand is gently, honestly, and face to face. Something simple like, “I really value what we have, but sometimes I wonder if you’ve ever thought about us being more than friends.” That’s not pressure that’s truth.

Whatever her answer, at least you’ll know. And trust me, knowing is better than wondering. I spent too long once trying to read signs from someone who said all the right things but never showed up for me. It wears you down after a while.

So breathe. Be real with her. Be proud of the man you’ve become not the nervous kid you think she might still see. You’ve got a shot here, but the only way to find out is by stepping up, calm and honest.

[Flirt Coach]

You’ve got a lot on your plate, and I can tell you’re trying to hold everything together while your world’s being pulled in three directions at once. Divorce alone is hard enough, but mixing that with work and a new relationship especially one that has job risks attached can feel like you’re walking through a minefield blindfolded.

When you find someone who makes you feel alive again after being stuck in something loveless for a long time, it’s like breathing for the first time in years. You want to hang onto that. But right now, the timing and circumstances are stacked against you, and that’s what’s wearing both of you down.

From where I sit, Adam doesn’t sound like he’s stopped caring. He sounds scared of losing his job, of getting dragged into drama with your ex, maybe even of how messy it could all get if people found out too soon. When a man’s in that spot, he’ll pull back and go quiet, not because he’s stopped feeling, but because he’s trying to protect what little control he still has. That silence hurts, I know. You just want reassurance. But to him, every time you ask if he’s still there, it probably feels like another reminder of the pressure he’s under.

So what can you do? Give this situation a little breathing room. Let the divorce finalize before trying to rebuild what you and Adam had. If it’s real and I think you believe it is it won’t vanish in a month or two. But if you try to force closeness while everything’s still tangled, you risk pushing him further away.

As for the job yeah, he could face trouble if management sees the relationship as a conflict of interest, especially since he’s in a higher position. Most companies take that stuff seriously. Once the divorce is done, the best move might be to quietly explore your options. You don’t have to quit right away, but it’s smart to plan for an exit down the line if this relationship matters to you both. It’s not fair, but sometimes love and work just don’t mix well under the same roof.

For now, take care of yourself. Finish this chapter cleanly before you try to start the next. You’re stronger than you think, and if Adam’s feelings are as deep as you say, he’ll still be there when the dust settles. But don’t hang your peace of mind on what he might do. Anchor it in knowing you’re doing the right thing, step by step.

[Flirt Coach]

When someone you love suddenly says, “I don’t want to marry you,” it shakes the ground under your feet even if they later say they didn’t mean it or were just under stress. It’s like a small crack got made in something that used to feel rock solid, and now you can’t help but notice it every time you walk by.

Once a relationship goes through a scare like that, it takes time and consistency to rebuild trust in the security you used to feel. You can’t rush it, and you can’t logic your way out of that uneasy feeling. What helps is seeing, day after day, that the love is still there and that both people are showing up again, not just saying the right words.

It sounds like both of you have made real changes that’s a good sign. You didn’t just talk about fixing things, you actually did something about it. You’re putting in the effort, he’s responding, and the connection seems to be coming back. That’s what healing looks like not perfection, just progress.

Don’t let fear of losing him become the engine that drives your love. When you start walking on eggshells, constantly scanning for signs, you stop being yourself and that’s what kills relationships faster than one bad fight ever could.

Instead of hunting for hints, start watching patterns. Is he showing up for you now? Does he speak to you with respect? Do his actions match his words? If the answer is mostly yes, trust that. Let time do its job. The security you lost doesn’t come back in one big wave it comes back in small moments when you realize he’s still there, still choosing you.

And maybe remind yourself that you bring a lot to this relationship too. You’re working, studying law, building a life that’s strength. He’s lucky to have someone like you who’s self aware enough to want to grow together instead of walking away.

So yeah what you’re feeling is normal. It will get better. Just keep showing up, but don’t disappear into trying to be “perfect” so he won’t leave again. Real love doesn’t need perfection, just two people willing to keep trying, even when things get a little messy.

[Flirt Coach]

It sounds like you’ve been trying hard to hold something together that he’s already stopped showing up for. I know how much that hurts. You’re still reaching, still hoping he’ll act like the man he was at the start, but he’s already started to drift away. And instead of being honest about it, he’s playing games and making you feel like you’re the problem. That’s not fair, and it’s not love.

I’ve been on both sides of something like this. I’ve been the one who tried to save a relationship that was slipping through my fingers, and I’ve also been the one who couldn’t find the courage to say “I’m done,” so I started pulling back instead. What your guy’s doing ignoring calls, twisting things, making you beg for basic decency that’s cowardice. Instead of owning his feelings, he’s trying to push you to do the breaking up so he doesn’t have to.

You deserve better than being an afterthought or a convenience. A man who truly cares doesn’t suddenly stop wanting to touch you, doesn’t stop calling, doesn’t treat your affection like a chore. When a man wants you, you know. You don’t have to chase him or beg him to show up.

I know it’s hard to walk away, especially when you still remember how sweet he was at the start. But people show their real selves over time, and what he’s showing you now the coldness, the disrespect, the games that’s who he is when the mask slips.

If you stay, you’ll start believing that love is supposed to feel like anxiety and guessing games. It’s not. Love is supposed to bring peace, not confusion.

Stop calling. Stop chasing. Let the silence sit. If he cares, he’ll show it without you pulling it out of him. And if he doesn’t? Then you’ll know for sure, and you can start healing instead of hoping.

You can’t make someone love you right, no matter how much you give. But you can love yourself enough to walk away when they stop trying.

You’ve got more strength than you think. Don’t waste it on someone who treats your heart like it’s disposable.

[Flirt Coach]

I’ve been where your boyfriend is not the same story, but close enough to understand. When a guy grows up seeing hard stuff early on, it changes the way he carries himself. He learns to depend on himself because sometimes there wasn’t anyone else to depend on. That kind of strength looks like maturity, but it also comes with a price, he’s used to being the one who fixes things, not the one who gets fixed.

So when you try to comfort him, and it doesn’t seem to land, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. It’s because he doesn’t know how to receive comfort yet. He’s probably not used to it. For a long time, his survival depended on keeping his guard up and figuring stuff out alone.

You said you don’t know what to say to him. Honestly? You don’t always need the perfect words. What helps most isn’t advice it’s presence. Tell him, “I might not know what to say, but I’m not going anywhere. I care, and I want to understand.” That’s enough. Don’t underestimate quiet loyalty sometimes that’s louder than speeches.

And about those friends he used to talk to I get your jealousy, I really do. But communication is oxygen in relationships. When you cut off where he breathes, even out of love, things start to suffocate. If he’s got people who help him process things, it doesn’t mean they’re replacing you. It just means he’s trying to stay sane. Let him have that space again. Trust builds when both people stop trying to control how the other heals.

You don’t have to fix your partner’s pain to love them right. You just have to meet them where they are, not where you wish they’d be.

So keep showing up. Be kind. Don’t rush his healing or your own learning. And remember, the fact that you’re asking how to love better already means you’re growing up or maybe faster than you think.

[Flirt Coach]

I get where you’re coming from. You and your boyfriend sound close and comfortable enough to be having the right kind of conversations about trust, safety, and what feels good for both of you. That’s already a good sign you’re talking about it instead of just acting on impulse.

Even when you’re both clean and on the pill, there’s still a small chance of pregnancy. I know it feels like it shouldn’t matter much, but that “small chance” can turn into something life changing real fast. The pill works great when used perfectly, but things like antibiotics, missed doses, or even stomach issues can throw off its effectiveness. So, if he’s hesitant, I’d say it’s not fear it’s just him wanting to be sure. And that’s not a bad thing.

If you both want to go condom-free, make sure it’s a shared decision made out of comfort and confidence, not pressure or convenience. Maybe talk about getting some extra reassurance together like a doctor’s visit, or even considering something like an IUD if you want long-term peace of mind. Sometimes hearing the facts from a professional can ease that lingering worry he’s carrying.

And don’t underestimate how much those “embarrassed” moments mean. Guys don’t always know how to talk about stuff like this. You can ease that by being open and calm let him know it’s not about size, it’s about comfort and connection. He’ll relax more when he knows you’re in this as a team.

So, yeah don’t rush to ditch the condoms just to make things easier. Move at a pace where both of you feel safe and sure. That kind of trust builds a stronger bond in the long run.

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