[Aida Omar]

You are losing your self-respect. If someone loves you, they will not make you wait. If they are not responding to you and are not contacting you, it means that they are not interested in you.
Stop texting or calling him repeatedly, and don’t chase him. Talk to him directly one last time. If he does not answer you properly, move on without looking back.

[Aida Omar]

Wao very impressive!
Well, this is not a big problem, but I think he is probably protecting himself.
Give him space and don’t put pressure on him, but reassure him lovingly that intimacy is important to you and that you are ready to listen when he is ready.

[Aida Omar]

I was very sad to read your story.
don’t think this relationship is worth saving. He cheated when you were pregnant and was sacrificing your life for him. This is the biggest betrayal.
And you gave up your training, saved money for him, and he humiliated you in return. You should get away from such a toxic person for your own and your child’s mental health
So you should leave him and focus on your self-respect and the child’s future; he is not a reformed person.
AskApril What expert advice do you have about this? We need your advice.

[Aida Omar]

Listen, brother, this love story sounds like something from a movie, but in real life, it’s a quagmire. You’re putting your life on hold for a woman who legally and emotionally belongs to someone else.
Please give this woman space. If she really loves you, she will come to you after she has resolved or ended her marriage problem. If she is talking and wants to stay in the marriage, then she is just wasting your time.
Love is beautiful when it is respectable. Breaking into someone else’s house or meeting them secretly, only brings discomfort.
AskApril, you must give your expert opinion here because those who are stuck in such issues should also have an idea of how they are just doing it wrong with their emotions.​​
Need your advice

[Aida Omar]

I think there are a “couples counseling issues”

AskApril is absolutely right that “staying silent doesn’t solve problems. You should talk openly with your partner and tell them how you feel.
The first year of marriage is a period of adjustment, so not everything will be perfect right away. You should give it some time.”
You needed a couple of counseling and you did a great job sharing your problem here.
I hope you have found a solution to this problem.
Because all the advice given here is not sugar-coated is ethical and straightforward.
anyway
I would like to ask you one thing: when did this confusion start?
Anyway, until the root cause is identified, there is no solution.
And I think in a new marriage, people often forget their own needs to please each other. You should create healthy boundaries from the beginning so that resentment doesn’t build up later.

[Aida Omar]

If there is sex or attraction between the two of you, then leave the excuse of your “friend zone” and talk to him openly, and tell him that you like him and what he wants.
So dear, stop being the ‘Nice Girl.’ Make it clear to him that you are not an ‘option’ he can just use whenever he feels like it. Either he steps up and dates you properly, or you’re moving on to someone who actually knows your worth. Confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear.
I really liked what April said here: If you’re not serious about another guy, don’t give him hope by snuggling with him.
Set your own boundaries.

[Aida Omar]

April’s advice is spot-on and moral, but let’s be real for a second: what’s that “ping” that comes from a crush on the phone?
The heart pounding when you hear that ping is a different level of intoxication.
I think it’s not just about sexting, it’s about a wake-up call. If your boyfriend can’t give you the buzz a random crush can, the problem isn’t in the texting; it’s in your relationship.
And I would agree with AskApril that you should let go of that crush energy and focus on your boyfriend.
Or tell your boyfriend the truth and end the relationship because no relationship can survive on deception.

[Aida Omar]

When someone treats you like an “option”, removing yourself from there is the biggest victory. Mixed signals often mean nothing; you just don’t dare to say it.
So, my friend, the world is very big. Don’t ruin your mental peace for a person who can’t decide whether you are important to her or not.
I really liked what AskApril said, that “if someone really wants you, they don’t give mixed signals, but try to be with you.”

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