Hi, April. I’m back for a follow-up question. This is the last 2 days of the worlds longest break-up…it’s been 5 weeks since we decided to split (see my earlier post) and we’ve continued living together, carrying on almost as if nothing has changed, we’ve been really pretty good together, with the exception of many, many sad and deep discussions about our past, our future (if there is one), and how we got to where we are today. Admittedly, most of these conversations were initiated by me. I think it’s just my nature to need answers and reassurances, and he’s been really patient and kind, and some of these conversations have allowed us to exchange thoughts and ideas that we didn’t know the other one had been having. Not that this changes anything. He’s still leaving to “figure some things out” and go home to his family (and maybe the other woman? see above). This whole time he’s always told me that he hasn’t lost his love for me, he still loves me as much as he always did, and his hope is that after he figures things out, he can come back and we can get back together. He has continued to talk about things we’ll do in the future, and “when he comes back”.
But now that we are so near his departure date, he seems different. Much more detached, a little bit cold. Not as patient with the relationship conversations. This just started over the past couple of days. When I mentioned this to him he got harsh with me and said “It’s just frustrating!! I think about all of this 24-hours a day, I can’t stop thinking about it!! And I don’t know how to make this easier for you!” A couple of my friends told me that he’s either a) questioning his decision to go and trying to maintain his resolve, or b) starting to force himself to detach. Do you have any idea what’s up at this point?
