Today was the first time I’ve seen this girl face to face in nearly 3weeks – We do chat all the time text/fb/call. went to a coffee shop and talked but she could not look at me. That did bother me, it felt like she was disgusted with me/didn’t want to be there with me. well we finished our coffee and went our separate ways.
I then get a text out of the blue from her saying “I like you as a friend and that is all we can be”.
That really did get to me as the whole no eye contact got to me, so the following went on:
[quote]Me: Where that come from? I already know were friends why say that again?
Her: Just that I think you always think there is going to be more and I just don’t want you thinking that I’m leading you on. I see you as a friend.
Me: How you figure that out? I ain’t said or done anything to say other.
Her: The way you look at me a number of things that’s all.
Me: The way I look at you, you were talking so I look at you! A number of things? Like what?
Her: It doesn’t matter just wanted to be sure you understand that we are friends that’s all.
Me: Yeah it does matter cos your over thinking things.
Her: Look it doesn’t matter as long as we both know where we stand. That’s all.
Me: Ya know I don’t actually. Today was so painful. You couldn’t even look me in the eye, like you were scared/disgusted with me. You even acted like you didn’t even want to be there, I know you’re busy but that’s how its appeared.
Her: I’m afraid that if I show emotion you will think that were together or could be.
Me: What a load of crap. You afraid of showing emotion case I get wrong impression? In the past 2 months that’s all you have done, and what’s my response been? Oh yeah the friend that listens talks and makes you feel better everything from what you went through upto what went on with your ex.. so how can you say that?
I accepted the friend thing ages ago, but you seem to keep bringing it up and saying it like to justify it to yourself.
Me: Apologies if that sounded like I’m angry or pissed its not meant to come across like that. You need to realize something and to quote what you said to me, ‘you can’t see what’s in front of you’ meaning here I am the one that’s been a friend to you mo matter what time of day when there was no one else to turn to, and I listened.[/quote]
Later last night I sent ehr message and I asked if she could forgive me about my rant.
she said that she didnt know – Cos I really think that you hope that this “friendship will turn into something more than that”
I rang her and played it cool and said Dont know where you got that Idea from at all
then she mentioned that I caught her out on POF (dating site) – as my mate got chatting to someone and then told me he thought it was her so I asked his Login number and it was!!. then she said you know what it desnt matter we both know where we stand now. just friends” i asked her why should the pof thing bother you its not like we were together n she replied it was a turning point” ????????????????????????
i chatted some more bout being there for her but started to choke up so i said gotta go choking here….. and thats how i left it!
Now have I gone and screwed things up by being like this.
Is there a chance/hope for me to get out of the friends zone or have I gone and blew my chances all together now?
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