[beachxgirl718]

THIS IS AN ADD ON TO THE PREVIOUS THREAD BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT RECENTLY HAPPENED. SO WITH ALL OF THAT ADDED TOGETHER, can you please give me your opinion?

I graduated in may and now I’m home for good and he is constantly up my ass wanting to hang out but he STILL has a girlfriend. he drives me crazy and does/says things that makes me believe he likes me, but he STILL has a girlfriend. we had a talk one night about how I don’t have a guy and he said “maybe youve already met him and he’s just waiting for the right time. law school is no joke.” cause I wanna go to law school, and I don’t know if he was making a reference to himself. we fight all the time, and I know he was getting fed up with it. we got into a fight about a week ago and he was like “i care about you, why do I stay up until 3am trying to make you feel better about sh*t that has nothing to do with me.” and I was like “nobody asked you to” and he said “i do it because I want to and I care about you.” then I tried to explain the reason we fight is because I’m so back and forth and sometimes I’m nice to him and sometimes I’m standoffish because I’m trying to push him away because he has a girlfriend, and he was like well can I come see you and talk about this? and I told him no I’m upset and wanna think about things and he said “lol don’t bother delete my number just like you deleted me from Facebook” then I called him and we were talking on the phone and he’s just getting pissed at me and he’s like “i’m over it, we fight all the time, and that’s not somebody I wanna be with. you need to get over the fact that I have a girlfriend. you don’t give me a reason to reconsider my relationship, I haven’t seen you in months, etc.” like just getting pissed that I told him the way I felt. then a few nights later, he cooled off and I ended up hanging out with him and we had sex. I felt like sh*t the next day, I don’t need a lecture. but he was like “i missed this.” then the next day I told him that couldn’t happen anymore, and he didn’t answer. so I said “ur not gonna say anything?” and he said “what do you want me to say, you said it can’t continue, so fine it can’t continue.” then I got weak and said “nvm I wanna hookup” and he just started to ignore me. I called him like 4 times and he was like yelling at me saying “im working, okay what do you want me to say, I have to go.” then that night I got drunk and called him and he was like ill call you later. never called. then I texted him the next night when I was drunk and he was like “uve been annoying me all day, its just annoying, you’re 22 you shouldn’t be acting like this.” and I said “can we just resolve things” and he said “where are u” then I fell asleep the next morning I apologized and he didn’t answer. then I got psychotic and called him, texted him, and messaged him a million times. he’s just been ignoring me. I told him how I truly felt and explained how I don’t wanna be the girl at 4am, I wanna be the girl all the time. and he blocked me on fbook, blocked my number, and he’s just ignoring me.

idk if he’s not talking to me because I was annoying, or because I said how I really feel and he doesn’t feel the same. or sometimes I feel that he feels the same way about me but won’t admit it because he has a girlfriend. I don’t know what to do, I mean I texted and called and messaged so many times, but if you really care, you’ll forgive me eventually right?

1. what do you think about this situation?
2. do you think he could have feelings for me?
3. will he ever talk to me again?
4. i texted and called so many times it was out of control. but if he really cared about me, he would contact me eventually, correct?

*my biggest fear is that he cared about me and i had a chance at a relationship and now he doesn’t give a shit about me and i ruined my chances.

[beachxgirl718]

but please can you personally respond to my question that i posted above?
i will read the book, but i re-read the posts you posted, and i’m just confused on how he could have feelings for me, but still be using me. i know there’s no black and white answer. but i just want to know plain and simple. if he has NO feelings for me at all, and he just wants to have sex and use me. OR if he has feelings for me as more than a friend, but he does NOT want to commit for several reasons. can’t it be that he has feelings for me, but just doesn’t want to commit to me? or does that not exist? i just want a simple opinion of whether he had absolutely no feelings at all and just wanted to use me, or if he did have feelings for me (NOT JUST FRIEND FEELINGS) but just didn’t want to commit? i’m sorry i just don’t understand, and i would just like a simple answer so i could move on. thank you.

i would just like a simple summed up answer. did he have feelings for me as more than a friend but he did not want to commit? or did he not have any feelings for me at all and just used me for sex?

[beachxgirl718]

i will read the book, but i re-read the posts you posted, and i’m just confused on how he could have feelings for me, but still be using me. i know there’s no black and white answer. but i just want to know plain and simple. if he has NO feelings for me at all, and he just wants to have sex and use me. OR if he has feelings for me as more than a friend, but he does NOT want to commit for several reasons. can’t it be that he has feelings for me, but just doesn’t want to commit to me? or does that not exist? i just want a simple opinion of whether he had absolutely no feelings at all and just wanted to use me, or if he did have feelings for me (NOT JUST FRIEND FEELINGS) but just didn’t want to commit? i’m sorry i just don’t understand, and i would just like a simple answer so i could move on. thank you.

[beachxgirl718]

okay thank you, i appreciate it. but is there any way you can just respond to the questions based on the added information i provided? and then i wont post anymore on this topic, i promise. thanks so much!

[beachxgirl718]

ADDED INFO. Thanks so much! 🙂

me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice. on the cruise he called me his girlfriend, and if I lived in maryland he said that I would be his girlfriend. after the cruise he contacted me right away. after awhile he wasn’t contacting me so I wrote him a message basically saying that if he doesn’t write back, he doesn’t want any part of me..and he wrote back. between the cruise and college we saw each other twice, once the surprise visit, and the other time we hung out and talked the entire time..no sex. after that visit, he texted me right after saying “thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again”..i told him I was glad that we got to talk and he said “i would never use you” later on I said I was going to bed and I told him to have fun and he said “all my fun left at 12″…which is when I left. two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said “way rather see you then the city”..the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans…and I was down near where he lived and was staying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesn’t matter how much it costs he just wanted to see me..but I told him he messed up plans in the first place, and it was too late so there was no point in coming. 5 days later, he called me and apologized for when he messed up plans. he said “lets keep this long distance relationship going”. this past august, I came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. we had kept in contact for one year..and now were 15 minutes away. we’ve hung out 6 times since I’ve been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend said that the guy I like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. we didn’t have sex, we just talked. he texted me after the visit and said it was nice seeing you tonight. I told him I was sorry he didn’t stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didn’t want my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said “just wanted to see you.” the second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff, but no sex. I asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because I like you and you like me. and I said as more than a friend?and he was like..yeah I like you as more than a friend. the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..no sex. the 4th time we layed together and talked again..no sex. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and it was real intimate, and he went and slept on the couch after? which he’s NEVER done before. and then the next time we hung out he was acting really strange and I asked if he liked me and he said “of course I do, its obvious I do, I just don’t want a gf” and when we had text convos sometimes at the end of them he would say “love you” and i would say it back but he would never say it in person. after he told me he didn’t want a gf we stopped talking for awhile, he basically just walked out of my life. then one day i contacted him and we started talking again and he just came over one night to visit. then i started going out some nights and texting him drunk asking to have sex, so we started just having sex, nothing else. then one night he called me and said “why dont we go out to dinner sometime?” so i said “yes, i would like that” and he texted me afterwards saying “its not fair that we just call each other to fuck. youre real cool, we will do dinner soon have fun tonight.” well the next night i was drunk and called him and asked when we were getting dinner, and he denied ever saying that to me, and that it was his friend that said that stuff to me. i was really hurt and he said “youre drunk, im sober, lets talk when were both sober.” he texted me after saying “if you wanted to go grab dinner, why didnt you just ask me? you think i just wanna fuck, come on.”

did he have feelings for me? or was he just using me for sex? how come he denied ever saying we should get dinner. ughh im so confused. please explain!

[beachxgirl718]

i resubmitted above. i compiled the posts all together above. please answer when u get a chance. thank you!

[beachxgirl718]

once again, i resubmitted with updates to this same thread. thanks again!

so me and this guy always talk about hooking up, but we never have. recently I told him that I don’t just wanna f***, I wanna hang out. he told me that was fine and I said “really?” and he said “yeah its gonna be hard for me cause your sexy but ill control myself the first few times lol” so I said “lol thanks I appreciate it, I’m just not like that you know.” and he said “i honestly wasn’t expecting anything like that at first, maybe just hookup.” but then the other night I was drunk and asked if he wanted to meet up and told him id give him a blow job. we met up and we started hooking up, and he was like “I’m so hard, will you give me head?” and I said “no.” well he was being an ass then and was pissed off. so the next day I apologized and I asked if he would give me another chance and he said “im good, stop texting me its annoying.” and then he told me “u lost your chance, I don’t wanna hang out anymore what don’t you get” and then I asked “is it because you’re not attracted to me, or is it because I wasted your time?” and he hasn’t answered, and he’s been ignoring me. so I waited a week and asked him if he wanted to hang out thurs night and he said “no” so I said “why not” and he said “i don’t wanna hookup with you” and I said “oh, why not?” he said “i just dont want to” so I said “well if you don’t wanna hookup with me anymore because I messed up id feel better, but you make me feel like you never wanted to hookup at all” and he said “idk” so I said “will you give me a chance in the future” and he said “we’ll see” so I said “can you at least tell me if you’re attracted to me or not” and he didn’t answer. meanwhile he told me awhile ago that he wouldnt be talking to be if he didnt think i was hott. so a few days ago we had this convo:

6:36pm
are you just gonna keep ignoring me?
?
?6:39pm
leave me alone lol
?
6:39pm
lol you suck
?
6:39pm
suck me
?
6:40pm
yeahh right you don’t want it
?
6:41pm
i think I do
if its good il prob hit you up to f***
?
6:43pm
so then you should hit me up
?
6:43pm
u think so?

?6:50pm
yes
i do think so
ive been trying
you never hit me up anymore, so you should
?
6:52pm
il hit you up tn if you promise to make up for lasttime and video chat with me now
my cocks out
?
6:54pm
i will make up for last time
im not video chatting. I hate it
?
6:54pm
no deal
?
6:55pm
fine
?
6:56pm
c ya
?
6:56pm
byeee
?
6:57pm
dnt message me anymore
?
6:57pm
okay
?
6:58pm
n remove me as a friend
?
6:58pm
? you’re being stupid. I’m not gonna hit you up anymore. I get that you don’t wanna hookup
?
6:59pm
i wuda tn
?
6:59pm
well so would i, but you don’t wanna unless I video chat
so forget it
im done trying
?
6:59pm
good
?
6:59pm
ok
?
7:00pm
ur mistake
?
7:00pm
no its yours
?
7:00pm
mine?
?
7:00pm
yes
?
7:00pm
ul never get a d*** like this
ever
?
7:01pm
i believe you
listen I was willing to do whatever, but you are not willing unless I video chat
so basically I wanna hookup, you dont. so its fine. no worries
?
7:02pm
ur afriad to video chat
wen I said my cocks out
?
7:02pm
it just doesn’t make me feel comfortable
?
7:02pm
u wudnt touch it last time
so I think your afriad of it
all good
bye
?
7:03pm
lol I’m not afraid of your d***
i just don’t like video chatting, and last time I was drunk and stupid. I wouldn’t keep hitting you up if I was afraid of your d***
?
7:04pm
well you made a mistake last time your making another
ur not getting a 3rd chance bye
?
7:04pm
okay that’s fine

can you please answer all of these? did he ever wanna hookup with me? do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and hes not attracted to me? why didnt he answer me when i asked if he was attracted to me? do you think he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he doesnt think im hott or because he thinks im a “waste of time”
i was just looking for casual fun, im not looking for a relationship by the way.

can you please answer all of these?
-did he ever wanna hookup with me?
-do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and he’s not attracted to me?
-why didn’t he answer me when I asked if he was attracted to me?
-do you think I was just a waste of time to him and he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he didnt get it the first time? even though im telling him i will do it the next time.

i know this sounds stupid, if you could just answer the questions id be very greatful. thanks so much!

[beachxgirl718]

i think this is what you told me to do. sorry for reposting the same thing. instead i combined all posts, and resubmitted them here. thanks so much!

me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice. on the cruise he called me his girlfriend, and if I lived in maryland he said that I would be his girlfriend. after the cruise he contacted me right away. after awhile he wasn’t contacting me so I wrote him a message basically saying that if he doesn’t write back, he doesn’t want any part of me..and he wrote back. between the cruise and college we saw each other twice, once the surprise visit, and the other time we hung out and talked the entire time..no sex. after that visit, he texted me right after saying “thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again”..i told him I was glad that we got to talk and he said “i would never use you” later on I said I was going to bed and I told him to have fun and he said “all my fun left at 12″…which is when I left. two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said “way rather see you then the city”..the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans…and I was down near where he lived and was staying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesn’t matter how much it costs he just wanted to see me..but I told him he messed up plans in the first place, and it was too late so there was no point in coming. 5 days later, he called me and apologized for when he messed up plans. he said “lets keep this long distance relationship going”. this past august, I came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. we had kept in contact for one year..and now were 15 minutes away. we’ve hung out 6 times since I’ve been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend said that the guy I like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. we didn’t have sex, we just talked. he texted me after the visit and said it was nice seeing you tonight. I told him I was sorry he didn’t stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didn’t want my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said “just wanted to see you.” the second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff, but no sex. I asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because I like you and you like me. and I said as more than a friend?and he was like..yeah I like you as more than a friend. the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..no sex. the 4th time we layed together and talked again..no sex. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and it was real intimate, and he went and slept on the couch after? which he’s NEVER done before. and then the next time we hung out he was acting really strange and I asked if he liked me and he said “of course I do, its obvious I do, I just don’t want a gf” and when we had text convos sometimes at the end of them he would say “love you” and i would say it back but he would never say it in person.

does he have any feelings for me? or is he just using me for sex? and also, why does he say “love you” sometimes?

[beachxgirl718]

How do I combine my posts in the same place? Do I add on to the original post I sent or do I reply with an update. I was confused so I just posted a new thread

[beachxgirl718]

i know you have responded to this already which i appreciate it but i forgot to add this in about this relationship.

Me and this guy have feelings for each other but were not dating because he doesn’t want a girlfriend. Sometimes at the end of our text convos he says “love you” and I say it back. He never says it in person though so I know it doesn’t count. Why is he saying this?

[beachxgirl718]

so me and this guy always talk about hooking up, but we never have. he tried all last summer to hang out with me and i would never follow through and would always think of excuses because i would get nervous. recently I told him that I don’t just wanna f***, I wanna hang out. he told me that was fine and I said “really?” and he said “yeah its gonna be hard for me cause your sexy but ill control myself the first few times lol” so I said “lol thanks I appreciate it, I’m just not like that you know.” and he said “i honestly wasn’t expecting anything like that at first, maybe just hookup.” but then the other night I was drunk and asked if he wanted to meet up and told him id give him a blow job. we met up and we started hooking up, and he was like “I’m so hard, will you give me head?” and I said “no.” well he was being an ass then and was pissed off. so the next day I apologized and I asked if he would give me another chance and he said “im good, stop texting me its annoying.” and then he told me “u lost your chance, I don’t wanna hang out anymore what don’t you get” and then I asked “is it because you’re not attracted to me, or is it because I wasted your time?” and he hasn’t answered, and he’s been ignoring me. so i waited a week and asked him if he wanted to hang out thurs night and he said “no” so i said “why not” and he said “i dont wanna hookup with you” and i said “oh, why not?” he said “i just dont” so i said “well if you dont wanna hookup with me anymore bc i messed up id feel better, but u make me feel like u never wanted to hookup” and he said “idk” so i said “will u give me a chance in the future” and he said “we’ll see” so i said “can you at least tell me if youre attracted to me or not” and he didnt answer. plus he told me awhile ago that he wouldn’t talk to me if he didn’t think i was hot.

*ALL OF THIS HAPPENED BEFORE THE LAST POST. I’M JUST GIVING YOU THE FULL STORY NOW FROM THE BEGINNING*

can you please answer all of these? did he ever wanna hookup with me? does he think i’m hot? why didnt he answer me when i asked if he was attracted to me? why doesn’t he want to hookup anymore..is it because he is not attracted to me and doesn’t think i’m hott or is it because i’m wasting his time? thank you so much.

[beachxgirl718]

i apologize. i did read it and i appreciate the time your taking to respond to my question. i am just confused because is it the fact that he doesn’t have feelings for me and he is using me for sex, or is it that he does have feelings for me but he doesn’t want a girlfriend?

[beachxgirl718]

sorry i did, but i was just confused. i don’t get if he didn’t have any feelings for me and was using me for sex, or if he had feelings for me but just didn’t want a girlfriend.

[beachxgirl718]

thank you very much for your input. is it possible that he does have feelings for me, but he just doesnt want a girlfriend? i dont like feeling used for sex. and i feel if he was using me for sex we would have had sex a lot more and he wouldnt have made the effort that he did make?

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