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Member #71,158Nope different guy lanaA
Member #71,158Confused We have been dating for a year now, he is a great guy but I’m just confused. In the beginning it was great intense and passionate but then..This is going to sound so dumb and I don’t know if something is wrong with me but he is very “It’s 2013 girls should have to pay for half of the dinner.” So for the first time in a relationship I started here and there paying for half of our outings, but then he made a comment about the total amount of what he has spent while dating me. After that comment I’ve paid for half on everything, but once he said that I don’t find him as attractive or see him as a man. I know my thinking might be backwards but that’s how I was raised that a man should pay and not throw in a girls face “Well since I started dating you this is how much I’ve spent.” It would be different if we were both still in college and starving but he has a good job, I even feel I should be paying for half of gifts I get.
I’m also confused because I feel that he is more in love with me than I am of him. He talks about marriage and wanting me to have his children,and it freaks me out and he knows it does because I’ve told him. Then I also get thoughts of cheating,I’m turning 25 and this has been my 2nd relationship and sometimes I just want to be single. OMG I’m a hot mess, please help I’m so confused.
lanaA
Member #71,158Hi April, Thank you so much for your advice, it was hard but I stopped talking to him and was able to move on.
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Member #71,158Thank you for the advice it does make a lot of sense, but now I’m just frustrated b/c I told him this week that I’m now focusing on my career and I have been training a lot for the academy that I dont want to lose focus just for a boy. Ive realized that I was focusing on the wrong thing and that I wasnt ready for a relationship either. However now he text messages me that he misses me and wants to hang out with me and to “save a place in my heart for him, and not to fall for any other guys.”I dont know what else to tell him and I feel bad cutting him out of my life because ive known him so long but I’m just frustrated because when I told him I am glad we can be friends, he was so offended it was like the worse possible thing I have ever said to him. Most people would think he was using me for sex but we’ve only kissed, so I just dont know why he is doing this to me:/ -
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