[amy3]

i think its the other way around- he has made all of the first moves since the beginning,and he seemed pretty serious about the relationship i.e he was going to change hes work hours to see me, and give me a key to hes flat etc . he has always asked to see me, spoke to me first and he tried kissing me but i pulled away becuase of the whole age thing and the fact i dont know if hes genuine about me so i didnt want to become too attached before getting advice.

and it seems he only wants to be friends because hes hoping that i will change my mind and get back with him. he made a comment like ‘yea i will be your best and closest male friend until things change as relationships work best when its built on friendship’

thank you again!

[amy3]

thankyou for replying. but sorry i dont think i explained properly in the first place. the three children have the same mum which is his ex, he went back to see his two children-one which isnt biologically his and thats when the thrid was conceived- i know its still drunken and unprotected sex and that though.

but about the older guy thing i would never have gone for someone more than 5 years older than me, its only because we started talking as friends at work then he told me he really liked me and as we started talking i realized i liked him too. i knew he was older than me (not by 16 years though!) but i didnt think it would bother me becuase age doesnt change the person who he is.

Alot of guys i have been with in the past havnt really liked me for me, instead they were with me for other reasons and thats why its really hard because im quite a big girl, and hes really skinny and he tells me he loves me for the way i am- but yes i know he could just be saying that but its been like this for the last 3 and a half months and i havnt even kissed him becuase i didnt want to become too attached and hes still here.

do you still think i should leave it?

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