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February 8, 2010 at 7:06 pm in reply to: Infidelity in the past- now prego don’t know what to do #12579
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Member #8,830thank you april February 4, 2010 at 6:29 pm in reply to: Infidelity in the past- now prego don’t know what to do #12660dgirl91
Member #8,830I have been clean/off all drugs for almost two years. and i do not hang out with the same people i used too. I have very few friends but the ones i do have support me completely, My boyfriend doesn’t do drugs and is not doing crime at all anymore. He has not put his hands on me whatsoever after that, he also has turned himself in and has made segnificant changes. I have heard of that abusers are always abusers. It’s more so now emotional abuse and he doesn’t realise that he is doing it. But in my heart what he says that hurts me he doesn’t mean to sound like that. If any one this helps further please let me know. I have thought about leaving him and i will if he puts hands on myself or our child and i willnot go back to him. I’m giving him a chance and a “deadline” if he doesn’t “notice” i will leave him. February 4, 2010 at 6:21 pm in reply to: Infidelity in the past- now prego don’t know what to do #13087dgirl91
Member #8,830[quote=”April Masini”]Your best bet is leaving your boyfriend and not having any contact with him whatsoever. You need a fresh start, especially since you’re about to be a new mother and have a history riddled with drug abuse, criminal issues, and challenges that many addicted people have.You need to NOT have a boyfriend at all right now, and to get support that you will very much need as a new mother. If you feel that giving the child up for adoption is an option, because you may not be able to kick the drugs, I hope that you’ll consider that.
Since your boyfriend has “tackled you” in the past, find a battered woman’s shelter, and ask for support. Or go to your local church and see if there’s a shelter where you can get a living situation as well as appropriate medical and counseling for your pregnancy and impending birth.
Your problems are way more than infidelity — in fact, that’s really just a polite way for saying you’re in denial about the drug abuse, criminal and legal problems and possible sexual addiction you have. Without passing any judgment, I sincerely wish you’d forget this guy right now and get him out of your life, so that YOU can get the help you need as a pregnant woman. You cannot do this alone. You need to change your life, and the people in it, and you need help and support of a sober community and new friends to do this.
I hope that helps. I’d like to hear that you’re healthy and happy one day.
[/quote] I have been clean for almost 2years and no way am i going back to drugs
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